after much reflection and thought (and well taken advice from TBers,) i pulled the trigger and quit my band which i was instrumental in co -forming. the singer/songwriter that i co-formed the band with is a raging alcoholic (i came to that conclusion during the three months we were together.) i decided that even though the music is good, i cannot associate professionally or personally with somebody with the disease. i have a long first hand experience with how that addiction destroys lives. i feel a huge weight has been lifted off of me and feel relieved that they will go on without me. my issues were that she had a lot of memory loss, was always injuring herself, hardly ever worked, was a master manipulator and on and on... she always had a magnum of wine in hand all the time. she was very co - dependant on me and exhausted me constantly while the other members didn't get bothered half as much. i decided that i wasn't going to embarass her in front of her one supporter (guitarist). he will have to find out the hard way i suppose. i chose to take a high road because it really doesn't matter what i say about it; drunks don't look at it or deny it anyhow. i cited irreconcilable differences as my reason for leaving. i had to bite my tongue many times last night as their apparent anger was being directed towards me. i had to get out before the recording started- i wasn't going to invest money when i couldn't trust everyone in the band. she is chronically broke and near destitute as i am finding out. i think i did the right thing.