Do you make a big deal about it and ridicule the guy until he leaves or do you just MYOB? Asking because there has been a giant amount of ass-hattery about this going on in a band I am in. Our KB player is gay..I've known the guy for over a decade and have known about his orientation for the past several years. He's not a flamer, doesn't advertise it, he's basically a guy who plays exceedingly well, likes to play, is cool to hang with, but just doesn't like the chickie-poos. He's also one of the top players in our area and has no shortage of fill in and studio work. A few weeks back one of the guitar players find out about his orientation and has been making life unpleasant for the guy whenever we are together...Oftentimes making homophobic off-color jokes, and making other off-color homophobic jokes and comments. End result is the KB player had enough and basically said that if the GP keeps acting like an ******* he won't be back, since its basically the GPs gig (his house we rehearse at, his PA), etc... I know the GP well enough to know he won't stop... Oh yeah, keep in mind these are all guys in their 40s, so there should be a certain level of maturity and MYOB there.