I've been in a weekend warrior band (100 shows / year) for almost 4 years. Most of my weekends were spent on the road doing 3-day "mini tours" in our tri state area. Recently, I started to notice that I wasn't proud of my musical career. We were a successful country cover band, and that was great. I would argue we were the best sounding band in about 150 miles - I will admit our show sucked though haha. But what had started as something temporary to make some money on the side between original projects evolved into an unstoppable force that ran my life. Additionally, the style of music we played began to morph into the newer "bro country" pop / rap stuff that I frankly wouldn't be caught listening to on my own. About a year ago, I married my Jr. High sweetheart. She had always been very supportive of my music career but spending every weekend on the road and apart from her really began to take it's toll on our relationship. Sparing you guys the dramatic details; I came home early from a gig to surprise her - and just like it happens in the movies...We've since started counseling and we're committed to giving our relationship the attention it deserves. This prompted me to take a hard look at my life and evaluate the things that truly made me happy. Playing crappy music to drunks and staying out 'til 4AM wasn't why I took up bass. So I quit the band. Frankly, I had already begun discussions with the rest of the members that they should be expecting me to walk away in the next few months. We were and still are friends. I even fill in for them every once in a while. The parting of ways went about as good as it could have gone. They even paid me out for some of the money I had invested into our PA. I know that some of you guys will understand the toll it takes on your personal life to be a steady gigging player, especially with a full time 9-5 day job. A lot of things take a back seat to the demanding schedule and unfortunately the ones we love often get the short end of the stick. I had gotten caught up in the tour life and the money and the attention. Now, I'm putting my free time into getting back into shape (no more 3AM McDonald's for dinner) and playing music that I actually enjoy. I'm doing some local studio work with a few old friends and staying "in the scene" but I have cut back tremendously and put an emphasis on turning music back into a hobby that I enjoy, not a job that runs my life. Rant over.