I've been in my current band for almost a year now. They auditioned a number of bassists before I came out and gave it a shot, and they accepted me on the spot. I'm not saying I'm a fantastic player objectively speaking or anything, but that's how it happened. I've noticed for the last 2-3 months that I simply have very little desire to attend rehearsals. Maybe I'm just lazy. But I've been involved with 5-6 projects over the course of the last 10 years and I've never experienced this lack of desire before. I partly think it could have to do with our lack of gigs. I also wonder if it's the music itself though. Recently, my singer/guitarist (we're a 4 piece with another guitarist, and he's the primary song writer at this point) has started to criticize parts that I've been playing for the last year. He said to me that for one of our songs, he doesn't like the part in and of itself because it feels too involved, and also that I drag at a certain point sometimes when I play it. It's a simple four chord progression that I play the root as quarter notes over. He also decided that I should stop playing a part in unison with him during another song. The specific part is fairly rhythmically involved and is the bridge for the tune. He says that playing in unison is generally a bad idea unless you know that you can consistently nail the part. I respect this perspective, but at the same time, I really enjoyed the way I played this before even if it isn't consistently perfect live at this point. I've never been criticized regarding my ability to keep time in this way, and I've gone on to talk to people who I respect very much musically, having played with them over the years, ever since receiving this criticism. Many of them were surprised to hear such criticism when I asked them if they thought it had been an issue in the past with me. This project isn't any more technically involved than any other project I've ever been in. I myself honestly don't hear what he's talking about when it comes to my so called dragging at times. I realize that collaborative endeavors often require compromise. I'm just not sure how to react to this criticism when it's something that's never come up around many of the musicians I've played with over the years. I'll be the first to admit that there are many areas I can improve in when it comes to my bass playing, but this has really thrown me for a loop to the degree that I feel emotionally bruised by it. Maybe my ego is just too invested. We have a gig this week and I'm considering leaving after the gig. I'm not sure if I'm leaving for the wrong reasons though, and I love playing live. Just wondering if anyone has any input regarding my situation.