The "alternative" lifestyle

I was curious as to how you were going to title this thread. Its break time, I'll chime in later.

Oh, and Perry, yes, you guys are freaks! Admit it, lol!

 

More power to ya dude!

I really don't think it would work for me and the missus...maybe another female involved would be sweet but I'm probably the biggest hypocrite in that I just couldn't deal well with her being with another guy.. so yeah, I'm totally ok with another woman but not with her being with another man. Like I said - hypocrite - but I'm just being honest.

 

I've always been curious about it myself. It never really seemed strange to me I've just never known anyone involved in it. It'll be cool to see what folks have to say.

 

It doesnt necessarily make you a hypocrite.
There are a lot of couples out there where both partners are only interested in bringing another female into the mix.

 

Personally its not my thing. I'm not getting on any soap box about what I really think about it. But if it works for you go for it. Maybe I just don't like sharing I dunno, but to me a sexual relation between two people is sacred to those two people, and not necessarily in a religious context.

 

No problem dude! Do you guys ever get any twinges of jealousy or anything like that?
In some ways I could see it being a very liberating thing if jealousy and such weren't an issue - that's where I would fail miserably. If you guys are cool with it, everything's in the open and at the end of the day you guys are committed only to each other emotionally, then that's not a bad thing at all IMO

 

My ex and I never delved too deeply into the swinging scene, but we had our share of good times.
We went to our first party more as a means to be exhibitionists. We started talking to some couples and at some point one thing lead to another and our wives were pawing at each other. (thats how I ended up banging a Ukranian Mail Order Bride)
Good stuff! Before we actually got around to swapping partners we had a brief moment of 'uhhh how did this happen? are you okay with it? I am if you are" and then we went on to have a really good time.
I never felt any jealousy, and like Perry, I got excited seeing my wife with another person.
Later that night we ended up breaking the party hosts bed. That'll happen when you try to fit 8, or was 10, people in one bed. Its okay, the hosts were involved and we all laughed it off.

 

+1. About 4 years ago I was in a brief relationship with a woman....and something just didn't seem right to me. Had a strong gut feeling but couldn't quite figure out what so I bailed rather quick. Found out later she was bisexual.

Hey, whatever works for you is fine by me. Each to thier own. But no thanks.

 

This seems like a thinly veiled attempt at a Fassanova thread.

 

The biggest issue that I've seen with couple's having an alternative lifestyle is that one person is into it more than the other.

That is to say, one person wants more encounters, more partners, weirder stuff etc. This can lead to one partner feeling like they are being dragged into experiences they don't really want or stopping the other partner from having the sexual freedom they thought they had. The latter scenario can be compounded by that person then doing secretly what they used to do openly, crossing a line.

The other common issue is jealousy. This usually arises when one partner wants the freedom to have sex with other people but hates the idea of their partner doing so. A simple double standard but I've known people that went down that route.

 

Was it that fact alone, or was there more to the situation that caused her bisexuality to be a problem?

 

True that! Perry probably could have titled the thread better.

My life is a mash-up of many "alternative" lifestyles.

 

As if I have the means to school someone... Id still be considered green, Im sure.

I guess it would really depend on what you'd want to focus the discussion on.
As far as as the discussion has gone thus far, it seems focused on swinging and inviting auxillary players into the bedroom.

LGBT people often identify with the "alternative lifestyle" tag as well.

Just googled 'alternative lifestyle' and came up with this: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alternative_lifestyle