It can be so frustrating. I understand the concept behind keeping stage volume low enough that the soundman doesn't hear your amp. Yea he gets a better mix overall and the end product is better. Whats frustrating is that I'll do my best to have my amp as low as possible on stage. The rest of the band does the same and our stage sound is usually just about perfect. Until the engineer brings us up in FOH. Then we all have to turn up because FOH is so loud we can no longer hear ourselves. Why isn't it a two way street? Is it just because we are small beans playing small venues and we can't get away from FOH stacks? Bigger stages seem to be more difficult for me as far as monitoring goes. I can't tell you how many times I've looked over at drummy at soundcheck and been like, "wow it sounds really good up here!" then FOH comes on and its total mud on stage... frustrating!! I guess i'm just ranting unless there is a solution then I'd love to hear about it. IEM's? never tried em, always thought the bassist would be the last person to want to use those things, but maybe I'm missing something?