as some already know here, i like reading lots of new age and spiritual types of books. came across something not that long ago that i thought i'd just pass along here for anyone that might find it helpful - and it doesn't get religious, so this thread won't get closed. the book is written my don miguel ruiz, and it's based on ancient toltec wisdom. it gets a lot deeper than what i'm gonna put here, but for brevity sake - these are the 4 agreements written of that they claim and i believe can really be life transforming: 1. BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD - Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love. 2. DON'T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY - Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering. 3. DON'T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS - Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life. 4. ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST - Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different whan you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgement, self abuse, and regret. - taken from the 4 agreements companion book. when i first read them they made sense and sounded pretty simple. trying to whole-heartedly live them became another story for me .