Hello all, I'm fortunate to have located this site. I have been a lead guitar player, who has been playing lead guitar or as a guitarist/vocalist for the past 20 years. As of 2 years ago, I switched to bass and have not looked back. Bass is where I feel I belong. I dont want to be long-winded, however I took an offer to join this group about 6 months ago. The initial "agreement" was that the the guitarist, vocalist, and I would be the core of the group. Decisions, etc. This is what I would call a pop-rock group, however my influences are much different from theirs. The vocalist is the money maker. In all my years, I have never encountered such a raw talent, with a vocal range I would kill for. The problem is now he knows he is good, and although he has yet to prove himself in the eyes of the public (we've played 1 show, with others scheduled) he has the biggest case of L.S.D. that I have ever worked with. The guitarists and vocalist are best friends. To cut to the chase, what started out as equal, has now become the vocalist as the decision maker, and in my opinion, is too erractic to run this band effeciently. He has garnered a bit of praise by some high rollers in Nashville, and we are scheduled to have a meeting in March with a famous country artist who owns a label. We are also scheduled to meet one of the biggest producers in country while we are in town. So two main leads. I dont mind playing the supportive role. I dont mind a switch to country (although its not my thing). What I do mind is being dictated to, even though I'm in my early 30s, and started playing bars at 13. I've got years under my belt, and this vocalist steps out and in 6 months has people ing over him. Yes, my jealousy is there, I know. Alas, the LSD has kicked in full effect, and since the vocalist and guitarist are friends, I feel I am not "on the level" with these cats, they grew up much differently than me, and every opinion I have gets shot down. I also feel my ears burning at times with these two, although they love my lines. I have a home studio, and while I have stated that we would be better off going to a professional studio (Nashville wants to hear more tracks) I have to re-arrange my life and get the family out of the house on multiple weekends to record. Needless to say, with the leads they have, they want the recordings perfect, which means I'll be mixing and at their bidding for the recordings till March. They do not believe the 8 track album will take that long, but I know I'll get calls everyday from them wanting me to tweak this and that. I normally charge, but since Im in the band... I've worked as a hired gun before. I consider this gig as such now. I've been teased by the industry many times, so I take these Nashville leads with a grain of salt. As a guitarists you're praised more. I've noticed I dont have a spotlight anymore unless I'm throwing down some bass leads and fills here and there. Im comfortable with that. What I am not comfortable with? A Mamas boy as a vocalist who schedules shows without checking for other members schedules, always being "right", and the god-awful "Scott Stapp" type of attitude. He has the looks, the sound, and the lyrical chops to possibly get to the next level, in which I will be joining as well if it goes down. I've learned to keep my mouth shut, as I have been in this position before. But this is different. These cats havent even cut their teeth yet, and I've been around the block a few times. This is a long ramble, but should I put pride aside and ride this wave? Or tell them to kiss my ---? There are paying gigs on the horizon, and dealing with members who consider you in an non-effective role is hard to swallow. The underrated bass player. These Guys are not much younger than I, but they have only recently hit the scene, and what I hate the most, the singer talks trash about other local groups, which offends me deeply. I know I touched on several matters, but I cannot seem to "put a smile on my face and just play". Any words of wisdom or advice would be greatly appreciated.