The only woman in the band

Ha! I did quite a few shows backing a female singer with a bunch of other dudes. I don't wish that on any woman. And we all love her like family. She was a good sport.

 

Hi Ms. @Paulabass,

You'd be treated like a lady in my band, except for perhaps the farting thing.

Did you know that the average person farts about 14 times a day. My band likes being above average at something.

But seriously, Kelly is more risque than anyone else in the band. We are all gentlemen around her. But then we don't really "tour". We go out of town for a couple days once in a while. Sometimes we'll have 10-15 dates in a month so it seems like we see each other pretty much every day. We keep it civil.

I'm glad you can joke about it. I bet I'd like working with you. Take care. Break a leg!


Thank you for your indulgence,

BassCliff

 

Hi, this is a fun topic! The things us girl bass players go through.

The sound guys, most definitely! Especially they way they 'review' my gear. My Sadowsky Metro and Sadowsky pre-amp/DI are 'Eastern European crap' and the DI on the back of my Glockenklang amp not to be trusted.

The guys in the bands are real troupers though (except a few). Funny and they mostly keep their farts inside.

We just show them and groove are as*** off, right? Support the band and make everybody dance. Even some of the sound guys will admit after the gig it kind of sounded OK.

- Alice

 

My current singer gets a new admirer at every single show we play; the girls are always stunning too. She's band leader and plays on the andro thing pretty heavy which I think helps her avoid most of the obvious 'girl in a band' ********. We do get a few surprised comments when people speak to us after the show and realise she's female though.

I actually prefer playing in mixed bands these days - not without it's problems but generally less likely to get stupid butting heads over egos (if only out of embarrassment about fighting in front of the ladies).

 

Looks like you're a recent sign-on here at TB, so here's you a welcome from North Carolina. Great early post. From Go-Go dancer, keyboardist, flautist and vocalist in my bands over the years, all have been super, even in those "time of the month situations."

 

I always put in a request that the woman fart first. Used to always do that with girlfriends too.

Regarding the boob thing - I remember an interesting moment with a beautiful Belgian singer I was doing shows with. She became a good friend, but it didn't matter. She was changing in a tiny little closet of a French restaurant we were playing in and I had to ask her something. I went to ask her through the door, she said I can't hear you - then opened the door, smiled and pulled me in. It was a strange yet tantalizing minute that's still, well... hard to erase from my psyche. She wasn't coming onto me or anything, just playing a bit of a teasing game... yeah...

Not sure why I felt the need to share that, but there it is.

It's the flip side of the woman I toured with who brought a sleeping bag and PJs to sleep in, on top of the bed in our hotel room. Woman #1 trusted me. #2 didn't know me well.

 

Hi Paula welcome to TB

what a funny post (for a girl )

feel free to ask for other solutions

and don' t let them guys ever get their shoes off in the band' s van

may the bass be with you

Wise(b)ass

Wise(b)ass

 

Welcome to TB! I hope you're enjoying that Spector ReBop.

I've played in bands with many women over the years (a few singers, drummer, guitarist and a bassist back when I played rhythm guitar very poorly for several years). All were great to work with and were generally more pleasant than the guys I've worked with over the years. The dressing room thing was never an issue as if I recall everyone wore their stage clothes to the gig (which in my case was often what I wore that day - perhaps w/ a nice clean shirt).

 

I'm not trying to sound insensitive here; so I hope it doesn't come off that way. I am genuinely curious.

Why the need to take your boobs out before a show?

 

Ha great stuff! Everyone wanted to make out with our singer in the day.
Me too -but i wanted to drink more....
She was super fun. There she is on the far right.
Good times. She went and married a sub drummer we had one day.
SHOCKING!

 

Hi,

Ha! Yes, I've been told the girls get cranky and uncomfortable being cooped up all day.

Welcome to TalkBass. It's a cool hang.

Thank you for your indulgence,

BassCliff

 

Welcome to TalkBass. Already met you on the Phil Lesh thread...

FWIW, I've played in bands with girls/women for years, and as far as I know, it's never been a problem for either of us. Personally, I kinda' enjoy having a female there, if for no other reason than to provide some degree of testosterone buffering.

Comes down to manners... some got 'em, some ain't.

 

Welcome, and a great, funny first post. I worked w/a female singer for a good 5 years or so. She was pretty outgoing, and had no problems hanging w/the guys. She could fart like one too!

 

Worked for years, in various bands, with the same female singer. The best shotgun rider I ever had, great conversationalist at 3 in the morning driving down the road, always helped with equipment, fine sense of humor, etc...The last few years (with other bands) has apparently become quite the diva, glad I missed out on that version...Welcome to Talk Bass!

 

It's always more fun to play in bands with at least one female member. More is better, especially female instrumentalists. There's always the stereotypical female singer, not that singers aren't musicians, but I'm always really happy to play in a band with a woman who plays drums, guitar, keys, or whatever.

None of the women I have been in bands with have ever shown me any skin. Oh, well. They sure have instigated the bawdy comments level at times, though.

 

the rhythm section in my HS jazz band was 3 females plus me, the solo male. made me appreciate having female bandmates ever since.