So, the vast majority of Band Management threads are horror stories. I'm not complaining. Vent to us. We're here to help. Keep 'em coming. I've been there before. But I wanted to take a moment to voice the flipside of the coin. Man, I'm in a good place right now. I know I'm lucky. I don't take it for granted. But my current band simply couldn't be any better for me at this point in my life. I started a few threads about it last year when we put this all together. There were a couple of speed bumps during the forming of the band. In short, the female singer and keyboard player rubbed each other the wrong way. But, that's all ancient history. They are good friends now just like the rest of us. Everyone in the band is GREAT at what they do. She can SANG! Keys player is also a great singer and harmonizer. (Think Gary LeVox from Rascal Flats with maybe not quite the high range.... but almost.) The guitar player is just freaking great. He nails Cliffs of Dover just for fun. And he's got some soul when he needs it. We have a new drummer. He's solid as a rock. And, get this. He has DYNAMICS!!!! He can knock the crap out of the drums one minute, and then make you wonder if the drummer took a pee break the next because he's playing so quietly. We lock in without even trying. I excel at singing high 80s rock stuff. We all bring something to the table. The harmonies. My gosh. The harmonies. I thought I was a great harmony singer until I got in this band. But those two SCHOOL me every time we sing together. It's a fun challenge. I have a wide range. So I'm singing the Ike part in Proud Mary one minute, and high backups over a female lead the next. It's a workout, but well worth it! The other two just make it seem effortless. Music simply falls out of their faces as if breathing. Our standards are high. Our "mission statement" is to be the best part-time bar bad in our area. We want to NAIL every song we do. Everyone owns part of the gear. We have a Midas digital board, high-end QSC powered speakers, in-ear systems AND floor monitors depending on the venue, the ability to run our own monitor mixes from our phones, nice LED lights, and good personal gear for each of us. We lack nothing. Setup is a breeze. The whole band with the entire PA, drums, backline and and lights could fit in a Suburban easily. And it's quality stuff. When it's showtime, we're all on. We agree that lights are not optional, but required. We dress the part. Nothing silly like David Lee Roth in 1985 (although he made it work). But we don't look like our audience. We have a fantastic place to rehearse/jam. It's the bonus room over my garage. Climate controlled. Plenty of space. 46" TV connected to my laptop (which is also run to the PA) to put lyrics on or show YouTube videos of songs we want to play. I don't know how they built my house, but it defies the laws of physics. We rehearse with half the PA (QSC top and sub) and full on drums and amps. My neighbors can't hear us.... at all. My next door neighbor has headed over to see me and got in my driveway before he realized I was jamming with the band. My wife and kids go to bed while we're still playing! At the end of our GTG I simply walk upstairs and fall into bed. All of us except the female singer live within 4 miles of my house. She drives about 18 to a nearby town. Here's the best part. We actually like each other a lot. Our personal schedules are crazy. Booking shows can be a challenge. But one or two a month was always the goal. We're making it work. Our personalities mesh perfectly. We are all goofballs. We laugh our heads off when we get together. Between songs during shows, the person talking to the crowd is usually the one person on stage who isn't laughing hysterically. We see things the same way. We have similar backgrounds. We're all 35 to 47 years old. Tonight we're getting together at my place. Do we "need" to? Nope. We could gig tomorrow and execute assigned duties flawlessly. (OK, not "flawlessly", but really well.) I have never been so excited to "rehearse". Sure, we'll get a little work done. But we'll also cut up and laugh a lot too. The music is simply an excuse to get together. Every time we get together, we start around 7:00 p.m. Usually it ends with a couple of us still standing in my driveway or sitting on my back porch talking around 11:30 or so. We just like to hang out. Female singer runs a bakery out of her house. She has taken requests from all of us. "What's your favorite kind of cake?" Each time we get together, another band member gets his favorite cake delivered to the jam. And we destroy it in about 20 minutes. Lemme tell you.... she bakes as good as she sings. I like to make a couple dips to have as well. Tonight is guac and buffalo chicken dip. We'll all have a couple beers. The Red Sox game will be playing silently on the big screen. (House rules. ) So, when Mookie knocks one over the Green Monster, I'll stop playing and "WOOHOO!" into the mic, I'm sure. Get this. We're actually planning to get together at my place for a pool party/cookout on a Saturday in the near future with all of our families. No music involved whatsoever. Wanna know why? We want to spend MORE time together! Our kids even like each other! Our spouses like each other! Again, I know how lucky I am right now. I'm savoring every moment because I know it can't last forever. But in THIS moment, my music life is good. Who else is in a GOOD PLACE musically right now?