I've been playing with a prog trio for a while now, just a kind of for fun type thing, nothing terribly serious. Guitarist is in his 40s, and at times feels kind of 'stuck' in a specific feel and sound. Drummer is only a few years older than me, mid 30s, and while he had the kind of 'straight rock' feel when we started, he began lessons within a couple of weeks of us starting jamming, and has been working his keyster off to be able to keep up with my odd time/odd syncopation lines. Anyhow, I've been getting frustrated with the guitarist - basically, he would give me a lot of 'not feeling it' guff on anything I bring to the table. Kind of came to a head recently, and at the end, he asked, via email, if I wanted to quit the band. I replied with an 'I guess' (sent to both guitar and drummer) and followed up with a second email to the drummer, letting him know that I was going to be starting a new project, and I'd welcome him to join in. This is where it gets a little weird. I guess guitarist and drummer have been playing together for a while, and drummer did indicate he wanted to keep working with guitarist, separately - but definitely wanted to keep working with me. He mentioned it to the guitarist, and basically, guitarist as much as begs me to keep working with him as well. So, I agree to give it a shot. All of a sudden, the whole dynamic of the band has changed. I think it is for the better - guitarist is being a lot more open to new stuff, and both are turning to me to direct practices - but it is a bit uncomfortable, because previous to the episode, guitarist pretty much made all the calls and directed things. Seems like I became de-facto leader of the band - uncomfortable for me, because I'm not used to it, and I really want to push them to be the best they can be (well, all of us, really), without having them resent being pushed.