Thoughts On NBD Negativity

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  1. playsthespace


    Aug 11, 2009
    Recently, I regrettably took part in a short back and forth on a NBD thread. Continuing to argue in that thread felt like adding to the problem instead of addressing it, so I figured I’d continue my old-man-ranting-at-cloud diatribe here.

    Obviously, not everyone agrees on everything, and that’s great! I don’t want TB to be a boring place where everyone agrees. I think the mods (and TBer’s themselves) do a pretty great job of keeping the conversations civil, and even though I feel like it used to be a little friendlier around here, I still think the community here is a better group than other ‘gear pages’ *ahem* …if you know what I mean… *winks*

    Okay, that said, I’ll get to the point. Maybe I’m getting corny, but I love to see NDB posts. I’m a gear nerd who’s never been particularly wealthy, and I know how excited I get when I’m able to get my hands on something I’m really proud of, so maybe that’s it. Sometimes new gear comes easy, other times a new bass can represent months of saving, extra shifts, sacrificing other gear that you like, soul-sucking casino gigs, putting the water bill off for another month(not recommended) and even more perilous than any of those; long, carefully laid justification arguments to our significant others. Regardless of your income that’s all scalable, btw - whether you’re making sandwiches for a living and aspiring to a new-to-you Squire, or pouring over spreadsheets because you’re dying for a shiny new Custom Shop or Fedora or some other bass made from dinosaur bones and moon rocks that I’m too poor to have even heard of.

    NBD posts are a celebration. There are plenty of threads to argue about specs, finishes, companies, etc. and that’s cool, but unless the OP asks and/or opens the door for that criticism, a NBD post is a good place to say something nice or move along. It’s a party, and maybe peeing in the punch bowl makes you feel awesome, but it’s at best low class behavior. I promise letting someone have a good day once in a while won’t kill you, even if you think what they are proud of is dumb. Maybe that person will be slightly less inclined to call your dumb tastes dumb in the future and we’ll all be better for it, idk.
  2. Oddly


    Jan 17, 2014
    Dublin, Ireland.
    Agreed, 100%.
    Fuzzbass, murphy, Rezdog and 29 others like this.
  3. Hummergeist

    Hummergeist Commercial User

    Jul 21, 2020
    Ableton Live tutorials and product reviews for Computer Music magazine.
    I love the NBD posts as well, it doesn't matter whether I 'approve' of the particular bass or not, I can vicariously enjoy the exuberance and excitement of a new instrument arriving.
    P_Dubby, murphy, Ikkir and 49 others like this.
  4. Robert B

    Robert B Somewhere under the rainbow Supporting Member

    Jan 21, 2000
    Rittman, OH, USA
    Well ranted! ;)
    Fuzzbass, murphy, Rezdog and 31 others like this.
  5. I’m older and probably won’t need any more amps or instruments so I like when someone else gets something new, even though it might not be the kind I like.
    Sorry for my being a smart Alec sometimes.
    A sense of humor helps to keep things in perspective.
    DJ Bebop, MonetBass, bignc and 4 others like this.
  6. T Bassman

    T Bassman

    Dec 13, 2010
    Totally agree. If you have nothing nice to say in such an instance, move along. Not everyone’s critical opinions are needed when someone just wants to share their good fortune and enthusiasm for bass guitars!
  7. blacktocomm

    blacktocomm Supporting Member

    Feb 19, 2013
    West By God
    The best thing about talkbass is the ignore feature. I don’t have many people on that list, but there are a few big mouths that don’t exist to me anymore.
    Crapping on anyones bass choices here is low class. If I don’t care for a brand or bass I simply keep it to myself and move along. Some people can’t help themselves when it comes to throwing in their two cents. For some reason they just have to tell everyone that Gibson has never made a good bass or Fenders are overrated or that boutique coffee table bass isn’t worth the money. Those people are usually mouth breathers.
  8. sleddogn


    Sep 8, 2013
    Love My Dogs
    I think all the grumpies are trying to get you to sell your new them,:woot: LOL:roflmao:
  9. LBS-bass


    Nov 22, 2017
    I don't bother to post NBD posts for just this reason. The celebrations are "meh" at best. I am happy enough when I have something I like but I don't have a pressing need to get attention over it, and this community fails to deliver there, anyway, so it's totally OK.

    Yeah it would be great for new players if others would share in their joy, but honestly, I wouldn't lose sleep over it. It's like posting a new song to YouTube. Literally nobody cares.
    pepj, BassJuju, MdC64 and 11 others like this.
  10. J Wilson

    J Wilson

    Apr 22, 2022
    An Undisclosed Location
    I'm always happy when it's NBD for someone.

    Certainly I see axes I wouldn't touch with a ten foot pole and/or a terrible deal, and some really gnarly used pieces that for me are just head scratchers.

    But there's no way I'd say a word that would deflate their day or rag somebody about what they bought.

    Now if it's a 'Shoulid I Buy This?' question, I'll tell you what I think. But there's no way I'd wreck someone's NBD.
    Lo-E, roccobass, TonyP- and 18 others like this.
  11. I rarely do not click on a NBD thread.:thumbsup:

    Serial negativity is an unfortunate internet trend regardless of the platform or subject.
    It makes one wonder if these people didn't get enough attention growing up.
    rd2rk, Lo-E, Grizelda100 and 29 others like this.
  12. PaulS


    Jan 19, 2016
    Somewhere in Jersey
    I love NBD threads. I don’t care if it’s a 30 year old Carvin or a brand new Dingwall. It’s fun.
    Rezdog, Lo-E, bobba66 and 36 others like this.
  13. gln1955

    gln1955 Supporting Member

    Aug 25, 2014
    Ohio, USA
    NBD's are definitely worthwhile, especially if it's something unusual or there is a backstory to go along with it. Negative commenters are just jerkweasels.
    P_Dubby, Lo-E, scott sinner and 21 others like this.
  14. Esteban Garcia

    Esteban Garcia bassist, arranger, aelurophile Supporting Member

    Apr 11, 2018
    Portland, OR
    I like basses, and pictures, and pictures of basses. I grew up when Fender was "standard," and I still have that baked-in bias. So it's neat to see what else is out there, and try to understand what gets people fired up. I never want to yuck in somebody's yum, so if I don't like it I just move along.
  15. TNCreature

    TNCreature Jinkies! Supporting Member

    Jan 25, 2010
    Philadelphia Burbs
    I too love NBD threads.
    Thank you for articulating what many of us also feel.
    Hooray for new bass day!
  16. What's up with casino gigs? That's pretty specific so that's why I'm asking.
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  17. Reedt2000

    Reedt2000 Supporting Member

    Apr 26, 2017
    Central New Jersey

    I'm with ya, absolutely zero reason to rain on someone's parade.
    Barticus, KeithPas, Artman and 6 others like this.
  18. playsthespace


    Aug 11, 2009
    Haha. Originally I was going to make that sentence more personal, and in my “career,” some of my least fun, but best paying gigs have been in Oklahoma casinos. No amps, broken down house electric drums, in-ear systems with shorting extension cables, etc. Then they mix you so quiet the sound of the drum sticks hitting the rubber pads is louder than band. Might be different elsewhere, and some casinos are better than others, just my experience here.

    I always try to be professional, and I realize that I’m lucky to get paid to play at all, but nothing I’ve done musically feels more like “work” than casino gigs.
  19. Warfrat73


    Nov 18, 2007
    Nailed it!
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  20. steelbed45

    steelbed45 36 on Ignore Supporting Member

    Feb 23, 2011
    Nolanville, TX
    Well stated. I've posted one or two new threads here and reached the same conclusion. Neither my bass or amp and cabs have a club here. I'm an outsider that pays $$ every month for the show.
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