I, at 40, am now in my 28th year as a professional musician (Started at 13). However, about 7 years ago (When my first Son was born. I also have a 10 month old boy now too.) I made the conscious decision to all but eliminate road work out of a sense of commitment to being a good Husband and a Father who is there, not gone all the time. I haven't done more than a 3 week stretch out of town since (and that almost killed me missing my kids). My workload has dropped off considerably due to this and, of course, has also affected my income (although the Wife makes good money). The one upside to this is being a "stay at home" Dad (Mr.Mom) has saved us tens of thousands on child care, but has severely limited my ability to network even in-town gigs. I've noticed, over the years, that many other players seem to be able to still keep touring, despite family. My question is: How do you do it?!? Am I just too big of a mark for my kids, or would spending time away from them (had I kept more of the road gigs) have gotten' easier? At 40 I've got to make some hard decisions. Go back to what I love (touring/playing) despite the pain of being away from my family, or find something else while I still can and become one of those guys that just plays the local clubs on weekends?