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toxic people

Discussion in 'Off Topic [BG]' started by Indiana Mike, Aug 21, 2012.


  1. Indiana Mike

    Indiana Mike

    Nov 18, 2005
    How do you deal with toxic people? Those who are perpetually negative. The ones that bitch about everything and love to suck others in to to their pitiful world . The ones you can't escape because you work with them at least five days a week. You can't completely ignore them because your tasks require their involvement.

    You don't have a choice, you have to have a working relationship with them .

    I think they all work where I do ,,, and I've been working on strategies to keep it upbeat , at least for myself .

    I grew up with very positive and happy parents,siblings and friends . I think I missed out on the life lesson of the said subject......

    I think I'll buy some new earbuds tomorrow ....
     
  2. bolophonic

    bolophonic

    Dec 10, 2009
    Durham, NC
    Be honest. I have no problem telling people to keep their negativity to themselves.
     
  3. tastybasslines

    tastybasslines Banned

    May 9, 2010
    Los Angeles, CA
    Accept the things you are powerless to change and let go.
     
  4. FilterFunk

    FilterFunk Everything is on the ONE! Supporting Member

    Mar 31, 2010
    I'm a Christian, so I'm saying this in jest - just tell them over and over again how much they need Jesus...and watch them trip all over themselves trying to avoid you :D.
     
  5. colcifer

    colcifer Esteemed Nitpicker Supporting Member

    Feb 10, 2010
    A Galaxy Far, Far Away
    FilterFunk's suggestion may work but it's high risk.

    My mother taught me two very important life lessons:
    1. No matter who she is or how you know her, if you notice a woman has changed her hair, comment on it as nicely as you honestly can.
    2. You don't mess with crazy.
     
  6. BassChuck

    BassChuck Supporting Member

    Nov 15, 2005
    Cincinnati
    No matter what someone is talking about, they're talking about something else. Keep that in mind. Unhappy people will be negative. A lot of unhappy people just can't focus on what the source of their problems and will pick on all kinds of things around them. Others are so insecure they can't deal with anything good. Remember that they are people and deserve some level of respect, but don't let them bring you down.
     
  7. Indiana Mike

    Indiana Mike

    Nov 18, 2005
    we have a few of those and they are most pleasant and most of the whiners avoid them
    Hmmm.mmm.mmm

    Don't want to.go to hell.for.faking it though
     
  8. pacojas

    pacojas "FYYA BUN"

    Oct 11, 2009
    MEXICANADAMERICA
    misery loves...
     
  9. I do my best to avoid them. They want to bring everyone down, but I'm not going to allow them to do that to me.
     
  10. They're called wives. :bag:

    Oh, those toxic people. Nevermind.
     
  11. jmattbassplaya

    jmattbassplaya Looking for a gig around East Islip, NY!

    Jan 13, 2008
    Long Island, NY.
    Same.

    I have no problem cutting people from my life if their attitude begins to affect my own life.
     
  12. i think there is a lot of wisdom here.

    look, just understand that they are generally unhappy (and i am presuming that, generally, you are a happy person), so, just ignore them.

    if it was fun, they'd charge admission, not PAY you...it's called WORK for a reason...most people don't really like it. just accept that you won't want to be around most of your co-workers as part of your job description, and let it flow off you, like water off a duck's b...well, you know.

    davesignatureII-1.
     
  13. 1958Bassman

    1958Bassman

    Oct 20, 2007
    Avoid them, if possible. They can poison a whole company, if allowed to and that can sink a successful operation. I worked at one of these and the owner let the guy do it and it's sad. I wasted far too much time hanging out whit this turd and after he pissed me off the last time, I stopped dealing with him I saw him once at an electronics distributor's open house, but if I could have avoided it, I would. I felt bad about it, at first. I'm fine now- the cost of dealing with people like this is just too high. There's no reason to accept it- if you just can't continue associating with someone, it has to change. I don't know what kind of management your company has, but if you can send an anonymous note to a manager about the person, maybe you can mention the possible risk to morale and the company's survival as the reason for the note.
     
  14. I've dealt with people like that... the best thing is to only talk to them when absolutely necessary and if they start to pull any crap turn around and walk away without saying a word. It drives them crazy, embarrasses them if there's other co-workers around, and gives them a really clear message. It either stops very soon after, or they avoid you because they know you won't put up with their crap. Trust me, it works, because they feed on the attention and from others being miserable due to their deeds. If you turn your back on them they know you're not going to be affected and they soon find someone else to try to bully.
     
  15. bluesblaster

    bluesblaster

    Jan 2, 2008
    carry a roll of those green poison stickers you put on toxic chemicals in your home or at work. when encountering a naddering nabob of negativity, pull one off, slap it on them somewhere, turn around and walk away. :D
     
  16. 1958Bassman

    1958Bassman

    Oct 20, 2007
    Like this?
    http://www.211.idaho.gov/images/Mr_YUK2.jpg
     
  17. Start calling them "Debbie Downer" instead of their real name.
     
  18. Some what on topic, I used to work for a with a guy who would talk about porn all freakin day and would brag about his porn library. He was the owner of a small sign shop that worked in. Don't get me wrong, I like girls but this guy made me sick. I couldn't wait to get another job.
     
  19. Simo98

    Simo98

    Jun 18, 2009
    QLD, Australia
    Keep positive.
     
  20. Just tell them in your best hippie stoner voice they're stomping your buzz, man.
     

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