ugh. had a mini-meltdown at work yesterday...

Discussion in 'Off Topic [BG]' started by miko, Oct 8, 2003.

  1. hey--

    yesterday was a rough day for me. not sure if it was post-ms, fatigue, or some other factor, but the dude i work for in the day time [temp job]stressed me out coz he said 'my hesitation in certain matters unnerves him'. he was referring to how i handled his itinerary for a certain day.

    he's one of those type-a-ish finance folk who is pretty much the polar opposite of me, personality-wise. i'm laid back and efficient, he's anal and forgetful.

    anyhow, i've only been working for him about a month, and i'm still learning a lot of procedures, and still making mistakes. when he made the above comment, it just resonated in me. my insecurities jumped to the surface, i felt totally stupid and inadequate, and i felt my eyes start to water.

    when i start to panic that i am doing something wrong, i tend to magnify that panic, and make it a self-fulfilling prophecy, and then screw up. as an example, i was afraid i'd forget to drop of a fed-x package, and sure enough, i did.

    the tears started rolling down, but i held them in and tried to stay focused. still, i felt like a loser and really frustrated about my whole work situation altogether. i haven't done secretarial work in over a decade. i thought this job was just gonna be answering phones and typing, which i'm great at. i'm NOT great at scheduling trips and doing accounting work.

    also, i have to fetch him his morning coffee, prepare his lunch midday, and pop his popcorn for him in the afternoon. i find that kind of thing a little dehumanizing.

    i'm feeling a bit more together today, but i still have to fess up about that fed-x package, and it's freaking me out.

    think i should just speak up more in a polite way and let him know he's being too patronizing? i don't want to rock the boat, but i don't want to be made to feel totally stupid. also, he often says one thing but means another, and i'd like him to be clearer in his meaning.


  2. With the biggest pair of scissors in the office in one hand, grab him by the tie with the other, cut it off right through the knot, then wink and go have some coffee. Caffeinated.
  3. Munjibunga

    Munjibunga Total Hyper-Elite Member Gold Supporting Member

    May 6, 2000
    San Diego (when not at Groom Lake)
    Independent Contractor to Bass San Diego
    Then come back and pick up your pick slip, which will be waitng for you.

    Seriously, is he paying you enough to do what you do? Did he misrepresent what your duties would be? Do you really want to be working this job?

    About the crying thing, I'd say don't sweat it. We all have some days when we're just not up for extra stress, and we all deal with it differently. I just go into my cave (which is anywhere I happen to be ... just stay the hell out of my cave).

    My assistant always offers to get me coffee ... and she knows I don't drink coffee. What's that about?
  4. FunkySpoo

    FunkySpoo Supporting Member

    Feb 6, 2002
    Cuz she want to see you bust out of your cave like a raving madman:bassist: . that's my guess
  5. unharmed

    unharmed Iron Fishes

    May 19, 2003
    London, England
    <BR><BR>Sounds like a ****ty job to me :meh:
  6. Barfly


    Dec 27, 2000
    GTA, Canada
    Hork in his coffee....
  7. In the words of me :F00k him, he can make his own lunch. If he wants coffee HE can get it. He is demorilizing you. The law system is very large, must be something you can charge him with :)
  8. ldiezman


    Jul 11, 2001
    Yeah screw this Job... You are not his mom don't make his lunch and pop his popcorn... Thats just ridiculous... Whats next wipping his Butt? I mean unless this guy is paying you really well, I wouldn't really want to continue working there...

    There are other jobs to be had
  9. thrash_jazz


    Jan 11, 2002
    Ottawa, Ontario, Canada
    Artist: JAF Basses, Circle K Strings
    Do you mean "whipping" or "wiping"? ;)

    I hate when jobs don't turn out to be what the job description says...
  10. my self-pitying mood has diminished considerably, especially given that the dude is out of the office today :D

    i have put the situation in perspective: this is a TEMP assignment. no, the money is not stellar, but it's much better than my goofy retail job. it does put food on the table.

    i've also decided that i will speak up if he says something that really rubs me the wrong way. no shrinking violet here, dammnit! i will be firm but polite, direct but not defensive. and if he really ticks me off, i will invite him to sniff my royal afterburner.

    i think part of what annoys me about this dude is that he is pretty close to being a billionaire, and as such has lost touch with reality. people in this realm don't "get it" quite like the rest of us. i mean, his caviar order shipped in yesterday -- the bill for 19 ounces of stinky fish eggs was more than my rent -- and that's saying somethin', coz rents in new york AIN'T cheap!


    p.s. he has his own private jet, too. :spit:
  11. DirtDog


    Jun 7, 2002
    The Deep North
    I don't think I've ever LOL'd reading a bulletin board message before, but I did with this one...


  12. both of your avatars really freak me out.

  13. Petebass


    Dec 22, 2002
    QLD Australia
    Miko, you and I are in very similar boats at the moment. My boss is a "get angry at everything and everyone" type of person, I'm the complete opposite - to me all that agro is just a waste of energy.

    I've tried so hard to get a day job in the music field thinking that it would seem less like work. I was right, I love the job and the products, but I just can't see eye to eye on anything with my boss. But if I resign, it will mean another 10 years of number crunching for a living. I don't want to go back to that.

    Like Munji says, we have some decisions to make. I feel slight relief that I'm not the only one in the world with this problem.

    In the meantime, hang in there and don't make any decions in the heat of the moment.
  14. Good to hear you're OK.
    You owe yourself one.
    If you like Thai, try:
    Pongsri Thai Restaurant
    244 W. 48th St. between Bwy. & 8th Ave.
    582-3392 & 957-8674
    Super food reasonably priced (fairly fast too).
  15. Tim Cole

    Tim Cole

    Jun 12, 2002
    Findlay, Ohio
    That sounds very condesending, disrespectful, and just pure lazy. Unless you took the job to explicitly to be his "bitch", I'd tell him to take his own life chores, and do it himself.....just like the rest of the world does.
  16. Maybe she wants to... you know... ;) Assistant... boss... Boss assistant..... hehe

    Ive watched way too much porn.


  17. DirtDog


    Jun 7, 2002
    The Deep North
    I've been trying to make mine blink for further freakout factor, but it's beyond my photoshop abilities...