Warning: long post (and this is not one of those joke posts with a punch line). I had a strange experience today, and I can't figure out what was going on. I arrived in class (which takes place in a theater), while the last class was running a little overtime. My usual seat was occupied, so I sat down in the back of the room on a folding chair, next to this girl. She tapped me on the shoulder and said she recognized me from a class last semester. We introduced ourselves, then the theater started emptying out and I was able to go to my normal seat. She sat right next to me. Generally, in this class, "seat etiquette dictates that you leave a seat in between unless youre good friends with the person. So this felt like an invasion of my personal space. Somehow we got on the subject of how she thought I was intimidating at first. Thats a weird/inappropriate comment, but I asked why, and she told me one reason, that I didnt seem comfortable in my clothes. I was wearing khaki pants with a light blue chambray button-down shirt tucked in. She said I should wear an undershirt underneath and wear the shirt open over it, or that I should roll up my sleeves. According to her that would look sexy so she started doing my right sleeve (opening the button and rolling it up). See, now that looks good. All this plus the way she was acting gave me a feeling she was trying to flirt with me. If not flirting, she was probably trying to make me let my guard down - Ive been told I seem a little distant/serious sometimes. We got on the topic of my allergies. She asked me about the severity of my allergic reactions: So, if I ate some peanuts, then I kissed you, youd break out in hives or something? Kind of forward, for someone I barely knew. In the same conversation I made an offhand comment about the guy my roommate is dating. The way I said it (not giving a second thought to my roommates being gay) may have caused questions in her mind about what my orientation was. So she said, are you gay or straight? before saying something about me having a girlfriend someday. This was odd because nobody has ever asked me that, especially not someone who has known me for ten minutes. Even though I have nothing to hide, it seemed like a rather personal question. Also, at some point in the conversation she took my folder and drew a smiley face on it and handed it back to me. All this time she was having a conversation at me where she was asking questions about me and I was answering and she would give her answer back. Example: Her: Any brothers or sisters? Me: Yes, one of each. Her: Older or younger? Me: Both older. Her: I have an older brother and a younger sister. Then shed go on to the next question. Eventually Her: Okay, heres the last question that will determine if I like you or not. Do you like anime? The answer was no, and she made a negative comment, though I cant remember it exactly. I knew she was joking, but that kind of joke, in my opinion, is in poor taste. The very idea of not liking someone based on anime seems kind of disgusting. So I jokingly said, okay, well then, good riddance. At this point she took my folder back and wrote your mean with a frowny face. She asked me if I was serious when I said that and I said no. She had actually been saying mean or odd things in a joking way throughout the conversation, but now she thought I was serious. Either there is something wrong with her or she was playing some sort of weird mind games. I corrected her grammar by changing it to youre and showing it to her. She had some negative reaction but I dont remember what she said. The lecture had begun at this point. In response to something I said, she elbowed me in the arm, which hurt more than she probably intended. That was enough, so without saying a word, I moved over one seat, next to someone who I knew wasnt going to bother me. Five minutes later, she passed me a paper on which she had written, in part, Was I really making you that uncomfortable? If I was, let me know. I responded by listing on the page all the things she did that made me uncomfortable or that I thought were in poor taste: -sitting right next to me when it would have been more polite to leave a seat in between -are you gay or straight -asking me questions in an interrogating fashion -do you like anime determining whether she likes me or not There were more. I handed her the paper, and a few minutes later she handed me her responses. I was just trying to get to know you theres nothing wrong with sitting right next to someone etc. And in one of them she mentioned what if I were trying to flirt with you I think it confirmed what I had been suspecting. She added, dont respond unless youre going to use your voice. After class, I tried to explain myself further. I had barely started talking when she interrupted me and started to criticize me and how I acted and what I wrote. At some point I was able to say, sarcastically, Well, nice meeting you. As she finished talking, I walked away. The end. In terms of how I felt, when I got to class I had been in a very good mood, but this whole experience put me in a foul mood. So, what was going on? Was I overreacting? Was I out of line when I enumerated all the things she did that I didn't like? Was she trying to flirt with me (if so, it was a lame attempt)? Was she being weird? I'd like to hear what the wealth of knowledge that is TB has to say about this.