In all sincerity I write this to the bass community which Ive grown to know as people that experience similar events, are generally like minded, and have a love for bass. It seems you all may be the only people who can relate to my story and the only people who may give me honest advice. So here it starts. I started playing bass about six years ago, for two main reasons, I thought guitar seemed so little and dainty, and I loved funk. I could wail away on this bigger instrument, slapping, pounding, popping and getting down right funky. Granted it took years before I could actually play some funky slap but thats beyond the point. So Im in a band with some phenomenal musicians, I really feel honored to play with them. They are creative, funny, very talented and good people. It started out like the perfect band, funky, rocking, technically difficult, but fun music. I was writing my own bass lines, slapping, walking, rocking, etc, etc. But gradually the guitar player started writing classical music, very Bach-ish type music (16th note descending arpeggios with a counterpoint bass line). I didnt really mind at first, because I thought this might be one our only fully instrumental pieces. But then the songs stopped coming, and the classical continued. After about 4 or 5 of these, the bass keeps getting written harder and harder, and I feel as though I have no say in the music anymore. I dont have a chance to get funky anymore, and honestly it hurts. Like a part of me has been ripped away and put into storage, dormant until I take action of some form. So that might not be too bad, but its compounded with other things. It takes me a while to learn these pieces, A) they are difficult, it takes me a long time to 120 measures of different notes, up and down, up and down the neck B) I dont really want to play, my hearts not in it, I had nothing to do with the bass lines and just have to learn them. The next catch, I live with my guitar player. Hes a ultra studious person, hes pretty much abandoned most his old friends (well not abandoned, but hed rather study than go out), and I cant blame him for this. More power to him, hes gotten very good at guitar in about 2 years. One of the best, most creative guitar players I know. But Im different than that. I like to go out, have a beer with friends, hell have 20 friends over cause some ruckus, play instruments till dawn, laugh, eat, drink and be merry. Granted Ive thrown a party maybe once since moving in months ago. I cant go without people and good times, its what Ive always done, its what makes (or made) me play the way I do. So he has this master of the universe attitude where he can do nothing wrong. I get looked down at from him and my drummer for liking these things. Like anytime Im not practicing Im doing something wrong. (I also work full time day job and try to manage playing, partying and life outside of it.) Now the next part I may be manifesting in my head, but it seems true. I feel like Im always contradicted, like if I want to do anything I already know theyll disagree. Two examples: A) I say, Lets play Rise (slap bass, singing, rockish), theyll say, No we really have to Tall Tale some more (Bach-ish, I had no part in writing). Example B) We were recording the other day, I say You know, we should really put the wide diaphragm mic by the bass drum and then use the two pen condensers above the cymbals or one above cymbals and one in the snare hi-hat area. Them, Right maybe we can try that, so I go back later, one pen condenser is inside of the bass drum, and one is in the snare hi-hat area. Lastly on my list of complaints is that theyre NEVER happy. Nothing is ever good enough. Weve never played a show, because they feel our quality is simply not there yet. I hear from my friends that we sound pretty much like Phish, which is no easy task. We are all original so writing material is taking a long time, but still its like having two non-sexual girlfriends, I swear. In all fairness, they have made me a better player. After playing with them for about two years, I can do things that I would say most people cant. Im not trying to sound stuck up, but I have gotten a lot better. I can feel it, I can do things I couldnt have even thought about two years ago, let alone play them. So Im really confused, I dont like playing classical, I like rock, I like funk, I like singing, I like what the band started doing. Now its just, Here, learn this, then well practice it for eight hours straight What you wrist hurts? You know Flea used to have to put super glue on his thumb cause he would cut it up so bad. I just miss my instrument, I miss the reason I began to play. I miss slap bass, I miss singing and rocking out. I want to have a beer with my band partners, hell I wouldnt mind having 10 and getting all crazy with them. Just anything, something where I can feel like I actually have some kind of role in the band. Getting 120 measures of completely written out basslines is like getting slapped in the face. FYI, the drummer is amazing and cool guy too, but he "creates" his drum tracks, so he doesn't understand. Talkbass, you are who I turn to, I know these are matters really to be discussed with the band, to explain to them all these things. But, its much easier to turn to you first. People have experienced similar experiences, people who have dealt with these issues before. Im not asking for sympathy, not at all. I just want to play some slap bass and lines that Ive at least had a hand in. Thank you for reading all this, I truly truly appreciate it.