Well, my band just imploded!!!

"WE ARE TOO LOUD!!"

If I had a nickel for every time someone in my band (Myself included) yelled that statement on stage, I'd probably have close to $20.00 by now! Things have gotten a whole lot better for me in my situation, and I believe that things just got a whole lot better for you too. Go out and play music at reasonable volumes, and don't lose your hearing. It's really a win win situation.

 

What's the problem? Sounds like you weren't enjoying yourself very much.

 

I love the fact that you can be dismissed from bands now via email (well by "now" I mean that because I had taken a long hiatus from playing with bands and back when I was playing seriously, there was no widespread email usage). Hell, it was cowardly to fire someone over the phone back then, now all you got to do is type up an email and poof.

Email...the cowardly band leaders best friend.

 

Been in a similar boat.

Don't consider it time lot or wasted. You learned aome music, some technique, and important life lessons with them.

To prove that to yourself, take a quick breather, prep yourself, go out and play with a better calss of people and don't make the same mistake.

I fell into a situation about 6 months after mine, that is basically "Friggin Great". It works well for me, I have learned scads more, progressed more quickly than I could imaging, have MUCH BETTER self esteem, and my wife, family coul out to see me without being embarrassed.

Its a notch on the back of your bass.......a quartar in the dues bucket.......whatever you want to call it.

 

been done to me. The jackass never EVER told me he had any concerns of any kind. He just worked behind my back against me...found someone else and secretly worked with him behind my back...then emailed me that the band had replaced me.

I would love to think that what goes around comes around. but that's a lot to hope for sometimes.

 

Good riddance. Sounds like a bad situation all around, and now it's over. On the plus side, at least you know where you stand with the band. I was let go from a band (in high school so what else should I expect?) and they never told me that they were doing something else, I just kept asking, "when are we practicing?" and never got a solid response out of one of them.

 

What I've noticed is that forum readers may acquire a good sense of proper behavior vicariously, so our radar goes off while other musicians keep on breaking the "rules" unknowingly, such as high stage volume or wanking between songs. That may be your leader's reference to "being serious on stage", but you wouldn't be in that role if every band member was well read in "issues that tick people off", or if the leader had enough stones to manage "you're doing it wrong" issues.

Life is short, so move on to find people who understand how to rehearse, perform, and communicate.

 

Sounds like that guy is on drama overload!

Like me, you are better off, now. Second go-round with a band you weren't entirely happy with...c'est la vie, I suppose.

One thing I have learned recently...when people are undergoing their own drama, even if they *created* that drama, they will strike out at the nearest convenient perceived target. Looks like you were that target.

I'll bet he regrets it later. But you will have moved on by then, and be playing with someone much better, and better-suited!!!

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS!!!}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

I'm sorry you were done that way. E-mail is truly the coward's way out, when it comes to band problems. It was *lethal* to the Vista Chix...I learned from them to state my problems in person. (Not that it did me any good in this last band...LOL!)

He ought to have spoken to you all personally, up-front. Why can't people be up-front with their problems? It works out so much better that way, in the long run.

I guess the correct-but-difficult road is just too scary for some people. Sigh.

Cherie

 

What did you do to his daugther ?

You almost made your band leader a grand pa ??

 

That's a pretty nasty e-mail. I have to admit that I've done the nasty e-mail to a band in a heat-of-the-moment kind of thing, but it wasn't quite to that level.

Bands can be pretty rough sometimes eh? It's like being married to a bunch of different people at the same time!

Is it me, or does everyone else notice that it's almost like a requirement to have at least one person that is "off" in a band?

 

Ah, band drama! Life can be so gosh darn ENTERTAINING!!!

 

hey DWBass, this might sound weird but i need to ask, did you mean "Attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder" when you said ADHD in your first post above??

 

Oh, good!!! You and Eric can keep working, and create a situation that is better for you both. Perfect!

Yeah, that dude has a lot of anger. But, you know, if he can focus on something else, he can cool down and move on, too. If he doesn't...do you have all of your equipment back from him? If you do, you can just avoid him and let him figure out how to cool his own temper.

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{[HUGS!!!}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Cherie

 

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