Thank you for your patience , consideration, and opinions .... After raising my kids , I finally had the time to pick up my Bass again. Spent almost a year in my room getting my chops back and gaining enough confidence to answer one of those CL ads . Learned real quick that my background in harder rock ( ozzy , maiden , rush , Metallica etc ) was not really marketable in my area . Joined a “ band “ who was in between Vox and needed a Bass player . Welcome to the world of classic rock , southern rock , and country. I put in the time to learn the material ( which they have been playing for years) sucked it up and became a team player. After at least four vox tryouts in the past seven months a good one finally arrives AND brings a helluva good rhythm ax man with him. We play the ten or so songs that we all had in common and it was good . We pick six new songs for “ next week “ three of ours and three of theirs. Myself being new to classic rock was lost like a ball in a hay field ,but I put in the time and effort and did my job and learned them . The drummer said that he just used a book as a drum pad ( instead of setting up his kit ) and You tubed it and figured he could manage..... He could not. The lead ax man was offered one on one time with the rhythm man but didn’t show and didn’t put any time into the songs either, and it showed . Me ? I just stayed in the back , played my part and kept my mouth shut. After a miserable session, we were packing gear and the vox and rhythm man pull me to the side and expressed their feeling about the blatant lack of preparation on the other two guys over the last seven days . This is kind of a big deal because the vox has made arrangements with a lady who owns a local venue to let us set up and use her stage on the day she is closed . It is out of the kindness of her heart that she comes out on her day off and opens up to us and stays there for three hours while we rehearse. Anyway, the vox and rhythm man tell me that they have a lead ax and drummer willing to play with them and after tonight , they aren’t too sure if they will stick around with the current drummer and lead. They want me to come with them if they decide to reform with the new members. What is considered the “ right “ thing to do ? Do I continue to dance with the one that brung me , or is it time to find a new dance partner? This post is already too long so , thank you again for letting me vent and rant about my first group experience since 1998 . It’s good to be back !!