Greetings TB members! I have a situation that I am looking for your opinion on. I'm sure this is something that many of you have faced before so I would like to hear your thoughts, opinions, experiences, etc. My apologies upfront for the long read....I just want to make sure I give you all the details. So I'm in a band with 2 guys, who are fantastic. We've been playing together for around 10 years. We get along great and there have never really been any big issues that we needed to sort out. Last year, we had a few months where we played 4-5 times (which is a great problem to have) but I was starting to get worn down and stressed out. Started getting pressure from my wife to spend more time at home with her and my daughter. So I asked the guys to limit things to 2-3 gigs per month. They said they would....but that never happened. So I sucked it up and said "Whatever". Then I get an email saying that the vocalist/guitarist and drummer/vocalist have booked a duo gig without me. So I asked them if they were mad at me and they said no. They said "We thought you only wanted to do 2-3 a month...we want to do more." I reminded them of our schedule and that the 2-3 a month thing never went anywhere. They also told me that the venue where they booked them was paying less than what we normally get but it would be enough for the 2 of them. I came to terms with it and asked them to book it under a different name other than our band's name as I feel that the band name belongs to the 3 of us, not any other subgroup. What happens? The gigs are booked under the band name. When the 2 of them show up, the manager of the venue asks them "Where's your bass player? Is he not showing up tonight?" This sends me over the deep end. After their 1st gig, I ask them again to please ensure that the next one is booked under a different name. I don't think I'm asking a lot here. What happens? It is booked under the band name...again. So at this point I am pretty mad. Like on the verge of quitting mad. Fast forward to last week and I get a phone call from the person organizing a Canada Day thing and asks to speak with the vocalist/guitarist. So I'm thinking to myself "Why is this guy calling me asking for him?" Did I mention that months before, I told the guys that Canada Day was a blackout date for me? Our daughter's birthday is Canada Day and we usually go out of town then. They tell me that we booked the gig as a duo but if your plans change, you can join us. And guess what? This one is booked under the band name as well. So again, I remind them that they both knew this was a blackout date for me and that I would really appreciate it if they booked their duo gigs under a different name. The guys have told me they mean no disrespect to me but the way I see it, I've made a pretty simple request that has been continually ignored. I'm not one to give people ultimatums but I kind of feel like doing that at this point. So, fellow TBers, let me have it. Am I being a diva? Too sensitive? I'm eager to hear what you all have to say.