I was setting up a show my band booked and wanted two other bands on the bill. I had one band and through the wonder's of myspace.com, I get ahold of a band recommended by friend who'd just played with them. I talk on the phone to the lead guy, answer his questions, he said yes they'd like to play. I said they could go 1st at 10 or 3rd 11:45ish (my band was 2nd). After he debated aloud which would be the better spot, he decided they'd like to play 3rd. All was agreed and I even sent a confirm e-mail to their myspace acct b/c a different bandmember handles that than the one I spoke to on the phone and I wanted to make sure the info on the show got to everyone. Didn't want to chance it. That was on Tuesday. Friday was the show. My band gets there at 9 and as we're loading in my amp the guy at the bar said the above band had called and said they couldn't play last because their drummer had to leave by 11 to be at work or something and they wanted to go first. Well that's a pickle: 1. I don't want to screw the original first band b/c all their friends will be there to see them at 10pm as expected. It would be lame to move them to the last spot, not to mention we're friendly with them and they've tried to help us out a couple times. 2. It's really irresponsible to ask to move things an HOUR before the show starts and to not even BE at the venu to try and work things out. 3. It's our show which we put together and none of the bands on the bill have more clout than any of the others, so since we put it together, we get the best slot (2nd). I don't want to play third. So we decide it would be in the best interest of all parties if the band w/ the drummer probs went on at an early first - 9:30 and would be done by 10:15 so the original first band would only have to start a half hour later than expected. They agreed to that. Well at 9:15 the other band hasn't even shown up yet and we eventually get ahold of the guy I orignally talked to on his cell. He had known about his drummer problem the day before but "didn't have my phone number'. Uh - when did cell phones stop storing the numbers of your recent phone calls? And did I not leave him two voicemails with my number? I did. AND - if all else fails, get on freakin' myspace or my band's web site and e-mail us. Anyway, we talk to him on the phone and say they can go on at 9:30. Then he hem's and haw's about that and asks if they can go on second instead. ***? Oh, I was so irritated. Now I understand last minute problems coming up with band member availability. But these guys were just so disorganized by not telling us sooner and even more so by not being at the venu. So my guitarist was the one doing all the talking to the guy and he was about to check with the band who was there to see if they wanted to swtich the times again when I just flat out said to tell this band no, they can either play first or they can just not come at all (they decided not to play which was fine, the bar didn't care either so that was cool). It was clear if they were so willing to swap around times, they weren't planning on bringing anybody. I do believe the drummer thing was legitamate and not just a ploy to jocky into a better slot. Or maybe they were trying to get out of the show altogether and were just seeing what they had to do to get us to say no. Anyway, sorry I'm so wordy =) Gahr to irresponsible bands!! Do you think my attitude to this situation was unreasonable?