Why are some people so hurtful...? Just had an argument...

If that's the worst 3 hours of your life consider yourself lucky. There are people out there who can't even afford to buy food.

 

The above statement illustrates clearly the man is talking out of his derriere.
As for the other stuff- I'm sorry a 'friend' would do this to you(or anyone else). Uncalled for.

 

Some people enjoy this stuff. Get rid of them. ....also, try to sneak in a little revenge here n' there.

 

I wouldn't sweat it, people like that aren't worth any ones time anyway.

Tell him to **** himself and move on or laugh at him...they love that.

 

There are going to be people like that regardless.

Take what he says with a grain of salt, and use his words to be a better bassist, musician and person!!!

Words make you stronger!

 

Personally I'd look for more positive motivation to get better than that.

 

Like girls.



And forget the guy. Seems like a d-bag. You've seen his true colours and its not worth your time surrounding yourself with people like that. You're better off.

 

I feel for you! My friend, got pissed at me b/c I couldn't let her dogs out when she went out of town for one night. She called me when I was on the way to a wedding, and then was going out to the club afterwards with my best friend, whom I hadn't seen in a long time. Last minute call. I told her I couldn't and she snapped something about "guess I will have to find someone else to do it, bye" click. I am not working. I would of had to go the opposite direction to her house and then back around to where I was going. The thing that gets me is, I found out a few weeks later that she was supposed to do a favor for one of her friends and watch her friend's mom for 2 hours (she is ill), and then she back out 30 minutes before...and this friend was out of town on a job assignment and couldn't do it! So she didn't have room to get pissed at me!! She said she needed that favor and she knows who will be there..uh, excuse me but I covered for her butt when she was sleeping around on her husband!!!!!!! If that isn't the ultimate favor, then I don't know what!!!!! So I feel for you. I know..sometimes you find out who your real friends are by the way they act. And if this friend tells you to die, etc. then they are NOT your friend to begin with.

 

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Why didn't you sock him in the kisser?

 

The big question is: do you believe him? Even if you do you can still accept yourself without it getting you too down.

It's hard to say from an outsiders perspective but there must be something bad going on with this person for them to say these hurtful things. That's not to excuse it, of course. The main point is to not attach your self esteem/worth and self acceptance to it.

Sounds to me like you should move on (but I don't know either of you so that's up to you.), there's plenty of people out there who will accept and like you for who you are.

 

Words....words.....and more words......blah blah blah blah blah.....

Obviously the guy was trying to hurt your feelings and ime, has done it before.
It's just an attempt to control you, hurt your self-esteem and keep you in a vulnerable emotional state for his benefit.

Just remember, free speech works both ways. If someone tells you what they think, then it's okay for you to tell them what you think.

When people around me start spewing crap, I don't shrink back.
I calmly ask them "why are you telling me that or how did you reach that conclusion?".
When they won't answer or answer with more crap, I tell them "you're spewing nonsense and I know the game you're attempting to play. It doesn't work with me, so kiss off".

You only think he's your friend. A friend doesn't talk to another friend like that.
Time to move on.

Good luck.

 

Some people just suck.

 

What doesn't kill you, only makes you stronger!

The guy seems like a complete ass to me, good riddance. The part about saying you suck at something without even knowing wether it's true only illustrates that.

 

that sux. maybe he likes you.

i had a friend say something similar to me when i was a teen. 19 years later, i'm still having fun with music. and we're still friends, incidentally.

 

Just noticed you're right across the border fro me! Sent you add requests on Myspace!