I guess I'm just too reasonable for my own good. My career just requires me to think with reason and be able to discuss issues, keep them on track and with a goal in mind. Maybe it's the case of all guitarists being cast from the same mold consisting of ego and narcissism. They can't all be this way can they? They all have seemed that way to me. Latest case in point: For the past several months the band I have been in has supposedly been striving to be a gigging cover band. We all are decent musicians but with careers and family ('cept for the singer). We are in our early forties so we are not striving to be the next big thing. Just to have fun as a hobby, play some bar/club/parties, and enjoy a small income supplement. We have discussed the importance of versatility in song selection. A human juke box, if you will, to cater to each situation realizing that hard rock only will limit the venues. We have discussed tone and volume which I believe may be more important than hitting every note and playing tunes exact. So why is it that the volume creeps up every practice to where the guitar is riding way on top of the mix. Every time. To where the guitar bass frequencies walk all over mine and the vocals. So now I can barely hear the drums. Do I need to keep tellin' this guy to turn down? To adjust his tone? To fit into the mix? Why is it after all the talk of tune versatility does the guitarist wanna throw in a Whitesnake tune or yet another VanHalen number when we have not gotten down the many other more practical tunes we agreed to be working on? Hey, I like hard rockin' tunes as well but see the need for standards and tunes people can maybe dance to. Why after I have explained the need to learn the songs at home during the week and bring it together at rehearsal does the guitarist say "Show me the chord pattern for this tune"? Anyhow I got p.o'd the other night while we are working towards a gig in 3 weeks and started hollerin over the mike to "turn down the volume!". He got angry and pouty and then when the tune was over says to me "Will I be able to turn it down?" What? Why is he asking me if he can lower his volume? He says "Maybe I just won't fit into the upcoming gig." ***? Why can't he just turn it down? Why all the drama when it's as simple as turning a knob? Why has he wasted all our time? So I walked. Wasted time. Probably should have long ago. Looks like the drummer did too. The singer hasn't been any better in the band with still reading the words after all this time and not knowing the basic structure of the tune. I am not the best player in the world, but I'm very competent and admit when I screw up and am constantly trying to fit the mix. So why is it some people are so unreasonable and unable to work towards a common goal? I guess I already know what the answers will be. Just doing some venting.