This has been a topic before, but this just happened to my band last night. The wife of one of our members is very jealous toward her husband and won't let him go to any gigs without her. This has caused him to arrive later than we all agreed upon at a previous gig, and now she is pitching a fit about a huge gig that we just got offered for next Friday night. She told me that they will have a hard time getting to the gig on time since they both have to drop off the kids at grandma's house first (about a 50 mile trip), and then turn up at the gig. They both have cars, and I don't understand why she can't take the kids and then meet up with him later. She also said that she will accompany him to ALL of our gigs, even if it's a private party or wedding and she's not invited. I have some VERY strong opinions about wives butting into the band's business, and this is killing me. Her husband is a talented musician, and a very important piece of our group. We've been working very hard for the last 6 months to get gig ready, and now the offers are pouring in. We don't want to fire him, but on the other hand, we don't want to put up with her bull****. We're going to practice tonight and we plan on talking about this. What should we tell the guy? I've tried explaining that this is business, but he said that he and his wife made a promise when they got married last year that they would never go to parties, clubs, or gigs without the other. I think she's being ridiculous and is showing her petty jealousy. He thinks he's living up to his promise. Touchy situation, and I just want to get past it. HELP!