I'm pretty new to bass, but not too new - aprox 3 years and I've yet to join a band. That's all that I really want at this point. So I saw an ad and responded, met a guy for a beer and a chat, and got a CD of his stuff from him. We seemed to get along and had some similar goals. I learned his songs - I wrote bass lines for them and practiced them. We played together one time and he seemed somewhat impressed with my playing and how his tunes sounded with bass (as opposed to him alone) At his request I showed him some of my (original) stuff and he jammed along and said he was digging it. When we were done he asked if I'd like to stay and have another smoke with him, we hung out and had a last cig and discussed what cover tunes we wanted to add for our next jam together and agreed to material to work on for the next jam. We agreed to play together again in a week, although he was to double check his schedule and he'd be in touch to confirm. I sent him an email the next day simply thanking him for having me over to his home and said that I'd enjoyed our jam He responded saying that he had a good time too and also, that regrettably he was to work over-time for the next two weeks, so he scheduled a date 2 and a 1/2 weeks out. I sent him another message a few days before the date that had been set, just to confirm. A couple day later (but before the scheduled day) he responded saying that he'd been out of town and would have to leave town again for about another week. I sent yet another message a few days after he was to have returned. He responded saying that yes, he was back and should have some time to jam soon - he'd be in touch to set a date. After not hearing from him for a week, I sent one last message saying here's my home number, cell number, email - if you aver want to play just let me know. Thanks. That was about 5 and 1/2 weeks after we had played. It's been over a week, I haven't heard from him. I've written him off. But it's killing me. Part of me wants to call or email him and say ***? I just want to know - are you blowing me off and if so, why? And why say that I'm good, and you want to play with me again soon, and schedule and reschedule things if you're blowing me off? My wife says I should call him and ask him, but it seems classier to just let it lie. When I think about it really hard, I really think that I might have intimidated him a bit - I think that I was very professional and goal oriented and showed him that I could learn material quickly and well. I think maybe he was / is stalling for time or not feeling up to the challenge(?) - or maybe he and his friends feel safer being "almost a whole band" and having the final piece to the puzzle offered to them made them realize that they'd have to leave their living room and their comfort zone to pursue their rock and roll fantasy. I really don't know. Maybe he's just a huge flake and a scheduling nightmare - or maybe this is just an unusual circumstance that he's been virtually unavailable for weeks. I do know that until I find out why this dude is flaking or blowing me off - I'm going to feel that it's because I'm not good enough. I hate feeling like this. Sorry for the long rant. Should I just call him and ask him what's the problem? If my playing is bad - I want to know.