Trying to get some outside perspectives here. I've got a family and work and so playing music is for fun and for occasional gigs (like once every couple of months), therefore I can only play/rehearse once a week which is why I have to choose. But I do want to gig and don't just want to "stay in the garage" Band A Brief history: We were together about 8 months ago, then guitar player said he didn't want to play music anymore (that was his excuse). Drummer and I think it was because on our last gig we finished a half hour early and guitarist wanted to do some repeats and drummer and I refuse to do repeats. Club owner didn't care but guitar player "was embarrassed". He was also going through a demotion at work at the time as well as an attempt to quit smoking, but regardless of the reason, he wanted to stop. I recently contacted him, he said he missed playing and wanted to get back together. Called the drummer, he said sure. Other than that for the most part we have good chemistry, tight, great vocals, giggable right away, drummer easy to play with, mix of originals/covers, creative opportunities to write more songs. Guitar player occasionally gets passive/aggresive (happened like 3 or 4 times in 8 months). Not my first choice of music, but it does rock and has power (his vocals remind some people of a Paul Rogers/Bad Co type). Its a trio and the other players aren't really open to expanding that, so not as colorful as Band B. Band B All covers but usually they choose the not so common, side B songs. Two guitar players, one sounds just like Jerry Garcia and I love the Grateful Dead. Vocals are pretty good, giggable but not impressively powerful. Great, laid back guys and they do consider us "a band" and we're friends. Looking at inviting a keyboardist over. One of the guitar players will probably consistently miss practices (like maybe once a month). Drummer is good but for some reason we don't always lock and I can't figure out why. They aren't on the fast train to gigging and they've brought it up in a "yeah, that would be cool" sort of way. I'd say it would probably take a while before we had enough songs and were tight enough to gig. I'm leaning toward getting back together with Band A. We got together last week and it was like an old shoe and we sounded pretty good. But then there is the issue of telling Band A.....they will be disappointed and I've never had to do this before. I'm interested in the thoughts of my talkbass brethren with regard to choosing and how to tell the band you're departing.