Yes, they are tools. But I own lots of tools I really like.
The part where it gets strange (to me) is worrying about doing mods. Lots of threads around here express concern over modding a bass. "This bass is perfect except for XYZ. But I'm worried about doing the mod because of ABC."
SILLY! If you love most aspects of your bass, but adding a pickup or changing the color would make it perfect, quit whining and go for it. It's an inanimate object.
My "take with me to the grave" bass is important to me. It literally sent me down the path of becoming a bass player, which made me a pro bass player for two decades. It my wife at a show and we now have two amazing kids. It's an 84-87 MIJ E series P bass.
I like to color. I like the chunky neck. I like most everything about it. But the tone was "meh". So I swapped the wiring and pots for a new Emerson harness and slapped an G Geezer in there. Now? Perfect. I couldn't tell you where the original electronics are and, frankly, don't care. I may have thrown them away. They aren't holy relics. They're electronic components and outdated ones at that.
They're just tools. Sure, I want everyone to like their tools. But they're just tools. I derive emotion from the music itself and the people I play with. Hand me whatever bass and I'll make it work. I love my main player. But if it broke in two tomorrow I would simply get another and keep on thumping.