Double Bass Ethics question

[tZer]

I really appreciate all the opinions. It confirms that I was right to be both surprised and irked by his attitude. But also I could have been cooler and more diplomatic--that I completely agree with.


The thing is, at the gig I took, I actually described the trio and asked the place if they were looking for something like that. They said no, they had a long list of bands rotating in. But it could have easily led to a gig for the trio

I find that getting angry is a waste of energy and time. Losing your cool and taking the justified opportunity be abrupt only serves to put a negative spin on the inevitable. If he thought his micromanaging tactics were going to bring you into line, he was sadly mistaken. Giving him the implied finger on the way out only confirmed for him that he was right and that you were the problem. A cooler response on your part could have left him with the very real understanding that his approach just lost him a really great player.

Either way, it doesn't do anything for you except satisfy the immediate need for gratification on the simplest level and that's not the path to enlightenment, grasshopper.