Forgiveness

[casualmadness]

Has anyone ever done something so terrible to you that you have never been able to forgive? I'm not talking forget. Yuo should never forget if someone wrongs you. But forgiveness is good for your soul. If you're still holding a grudge against someone, who is it? How long have you held the grudge? And finally, what did this person do to you?

 

[Bryan316]

Oh I've got PLENTY of people who I'll never forgive. There are things, contrary to popular belief, that are beyond forgiveness.

Hence why there's a Hell to end up in.

 

[morf]

Oh I've got PLENTY of people who I'll never forgive. There are things, contrary to popular belief, that are beyond forgiveness.

Hence why there's a Hell to end up in.

YEAH. METAL.

 

[Valerus]

My ex-girlfriend.

 

[MakiSupaStar]

My roommate in college stole my bong. I haven't spoken to him since.

 

[Phalex]

Yep. A friend of mine stuck his hunting rifle in his mouth about ten years ago. I'm still pissed at him.

 

[Barkless Dog]

Yes, my father, he's been dead for 10 years and somethings I can never forgive him for and he never would apologize for.

I still loved him but some things will never go away, ever.

 

[A9X]

Yes a couple of times, but I try to let it go. For me that's a sort of forgiveness, not for them, but for me.

 

[middy]

No.

 

[casualmadness]

not for them, but for me.

I've only recently forgiven my ex-wife for this very reason. Has nothing to do with her and everything to do with me.

 

[A9X]

I've only recently forgiven my ex-wife for this very reason. Has nothing to do with her and everything to do with me.

Someone did something really awful to me and my brothers when we were younger. Felt much better after I p***ed on his grave though.

 

[neurotictim]

Wise man say, "Forgiveness is divine, but never pay full price for late pizza."

Yep.

 

[hbarcat]

I wouldn't even consider forgiveness for my (now ex)wife's father for what he did to his daughters, and neither for her mother for knowing about it and letting it continue for years.

I don't waste my time or brainpower thinking about either of them, but it was a very happy day for me when he croaked and I'll be very happy when she's dead, too. My wife's cousin and I both made jokes about death and corpses and laughed and heckled the entire time during the funeral service. Everyone around us could plainly hear us and we were pretty obnoxious, but everyone knew how much of an ******* the guy was and his whole family hated him so no one seemed to care that we turned his funeral into a circus.

 

[Philbiker]

I've been trying to get down to the heart of the matter, But my will gets weak and my thoughts seem to scatter. But I think it's about forgiveness. Forgiveness. Even if, even if you don't love me anymore.

One of Henley's best choruses IMO, and that's saying a lot.

 

[Matt_W]

No one has ever wronged me so badly that I haven't been able to forgive them, but I'm sure there are plenty of things that could be done to me or my loved ones that I wouldn't willing to offer forgiveness for.

 

[ElectrAcoustic]

Yes a couple of times, but I try to let it go. For me that's a sort of forgiveness, not for them, but for me.

+1, forgiveness is all about yourself and your own spiritual well-being and has absolutely nothing to do with the other person.. that said, it's not easy to truly forgive, especially when a wrong is really wrong..

 

[mjolnir]

Well... There was the recent roommate. Was my best friend for ten years, I took care of him, stuck my life on the line for him, defended him through everything, and I could swear he'd do the same for me.

Then he became my roommate and promptly stabbed me in the back. He still to this day owes me $1100 I covered for him because he decided he didn't have to pay his bills and I did, and turned his back on me and tried to shut me out of his life because I (supposedly) slandered him to his girlfriend of two months after they got engaged. I told her she was making a mistake in the engagement. That's it. Top that off with the fact that he was lying to his father (a very good friend of mine) about me and trying to turn him against me, and I'm feeling pretty unforgiving at this point.

 

[Deacon_Blues]

One of Henley's best choruses IMO, and that's saying a lot.

Yep, one of his best songs and lyrics IMO too.

I've had a hard time forgiving a classmate of mine for the way he treated me when we were 13-16 years old. Those years were a pure hell for me in many ways. Due to him (at least partially), my self esteem was very low for 10+ years afterwards. I don't think I will ever fully recover from that period.

I think I have forgiven him by now though. One thing that contributed to it is that he recently invited me as a friend on Facebook (there's no real race "who got most friends of facebook" here like on other places). I want to believe that he in that way kind of wanted to apologize for what he did back then in the early 90's. It might be blue-eyed and naive to think so, but anyway it feels better to think like that than otherwise. I accepted his friend request, better to be friends than enemies.

He's "forgiven, not forgotten" (The Corrs)

 

[HollowBassman]

I'm usually a forgiving person, but if me and the guy who tried to rape my ex-girlfriend are ever in the same room, only one of us will walk out.