You're gonna get a lot of different responses on this from "I've used rounds for 10 years and haven't even had a fret dress" to "Rotosound Swing Bass 66 ate my frets beyond a fret dress in less than a year". That said, some general observations:
Stainless steel is a harder metal than nickelplated or pure nickel. Depending on your playing style, it has the ability to wear frets quicker.
Playing style can be a bigger factor than metal type. Heavy fretting, string bending, and other aggressive styles can wear frets quicker.
Choose strings based on what what you want to sound like and consider fret wear part of maintaining your instrument, kinda like tires on a car.