paniak17,
The way I learned this stuff was by using the major scale as a starting point. The degrees of a major scale are 1-2-3-4-5-6-7-8. C major is a great scale to work with because the notes are C-D-E-F-G-A-B-C. No sharps or flats. Add a number to each note, C1-D2-E3-F4-G5-A6-B7-C1(8)-D9-ETC. You have to keep counting because some chords call for 9th, 11s, 13th, etc which are the 2, 4, and 6 above the octave. Does this make sense so far (I'm no theory guru, so please correct me if I'm wrong here)?
Now, lets apply this to C minor (the aeolian mode). The degress of the minor scale are 1-2-flat3-4-5-flat6-flat7-8. So To turn C major into C minor all you have to do is flat the 3,6, and 7. The note become C-D-Eflat-F-G-Aflat-Bflat-C. Piece of cake.
Here is a little chart I made that might help:
Ionian (Major scale) degrees: 1-2-3-4-5-6-7 Good over: M,M7,M6 chords
Dorian degrees: 1-2-b3-4-5-6-b7 Good over: m,m7,m6 chords
Phrygian degrees: 1-b2-b3-4-5-b6-b7 Good over: m,m7 chords
Lydian degrees: 1-2-3-#4-5-6-7 Good over: M,M7,M6 chords
Mixolydian degrees: 1-2-3-4-5-6-b7 Good over: M,7 chords
Aeolian (Minor scale) degrees: 1-2-b3-4-5-b6-b7 Good over: m,m7,m6 hords
Locrian degrees: 1-b2-b3-4-b5-b6-b7 Good over: dim,m7b5 chords
Remember the modes are also ordered. Ionian is the major scale and first degree of that scale, Dorian is the second degree. So If you are playing over a C major chord you can play C major (Ionian), D dorian, E Phrygian, F Lydian, etc.
Have fun,
Pontz.