I have to side with the OP on this. A 300 watt amp should be noticeably louder than an 80 watt, with everything else in the equation being equal (guitar, cab, cables, etc). It should *not* be less loud.
There is a valid argument on the taper of the volume controls though. And, I'll add one thing - I had a similar "problem" with an amp that was more watts but was quieter... even though the settings were the same, the 1 amp of more wattage was much quieter. Finally, with some preamp tweaks, I got it to be the volume I'd expected. It's possible that the Tour "wants" some EQ push in the preamp to drive the power amp section. (edit: It's also possible the preamp, even flat, on the TKO is hotter than the Tour - you can test this out by doing a line out to a power amp from each and see which one is louder -thus eliminating the "wattage" from the equation.)
Before you throw in the towel, try to really wring out both amps - give each some nice eq boosting, max the input signal to right before the point of clipping, and then crank up the power amp volume really high. My guess is that the Tour will shine here.
Btw - the TKO is no slouch of an amp. Rated at 80 watts... it's a "loud" 80 watts, if you know what I mean!