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How mindful are you?

slobake

slobake

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Aug 6, 2011
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#1
You have had a hard day at work and you get a seat on mass transit looking forward to relaxing on your way home. Wrong! You have to listen to some Rhodes Sholar blabbing loudly on their cellphone about some inane crap. Are ther really not in touch with what they are doing are do they just don't care?
I'm guessing that most of us wouldn't do that sort of thing but just how aware are we?
I sit next to the door in my office and 95 percent of the people here let the door slam loudly without a second thought . Some days it drives me crazy. A friend told me that it isn't the door the irratates me as much as the idea that people are not showing me respect. Yup that's it alright, now that I know this I have a lot easier time of dealing with it. I don't need to take it personal, people just aren't paying attention. If I didn't sit here I might not notice either.
I wonder how many things I do like this that I am not aware of? At least the things my wife hasn't told me about yet. :p

A note to all you fixer uppers. I'm not looking for help dealing with the slamming door but thank you for your suggestions anyway. :hiding:
 
#3
I don't care for others having loud cell phone conversations in small spaces...like in elevators for instance. Last time a guy got on an elevator I was riding and continued his cell phone conversation at a volume that was obnoxious, I whipped out my cell phone and started speaking even louder than he was about some guy that just got on the elevator and was talking into his cell phone at a loud volume..I was speaking to no one ...but he got the message pretty fast. I'm about reaching a point where I'm just want to blurt out, "I'm not interested in having to listen to your phone conversation so please take it down a notch or catch the next elevator".

I always liked the scene in the movie "Crazy People" where Dudley Moore gets out of his car on the bridge going into Manhattan during stopped traffic, and grabs the car phone from the guy in the car next to him, rips it out of the guys car and throws it into the river...then says, "people who talk on car phones annoy other people!"
 
#6
MatticusMania said:
I tend to be pretty mindful, but there are occasions when I am unaware my actions are affecting someone else. Its a work in progress.
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Me too. I grew up in a situation where my peace of mind depended on not being noticed. I learned how to be very aware of what is going on in any situation.
I also spent time practicing Zen Buddhism and a big part of that is mindfullness. I still meditate and work on staying mindful. I feel like I am on a journey that I have just started though.
 
#12
I'm naturally sneaky, so I tend to be very mindful so no one notices me doing whatever it is I'm doing. It's not necessarily because I'm doing something devious (though on occasion I am :ninja:), but mostly because I hate having to stop and shoot the breeze and be personable with people when I'm doing something.
 
#16
If what you mean is being aware of how your actions affect others, very. I have come to better terms with how I view others who seem not to be. I used to write them off as thoughtless and self centered. I have learned though, by careful observation, most are just not aware that there is anything wrong with their actions. This taught me that a big part of the cure for my annoyance was admitting I was too judgmental. Things are easier to overlook now.
 

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