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How old were you when you become comfortable in your "own skin"?

#21
Also, I find it can be something that fluctuates. One day everything is fine, and we're all comfortable with ourselves and our position in life.
Next thing you know > Boom! Major life change that totally knocks us out of our comfortable position.
But we're human, and we're adaptable. We get used to our new condition (and sometimes we dont) and life goes on.
 
#22
I'm totally comfortable with who I am. I could give a rat's patootie what people think of me.

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#24
MAJOR METAL said:
Its amazing that kids have the courage to come out at 16 or even younger today.
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I agree. Its a great thing.
Things might have been different for me had I started questioning things earlier, but it wasnt until after high school that I started to find myself attracted to the same sex.
And then a bit of experimenting and all of a sudden my head is spinning and I found myself amidst an identity crisis.
Eventually, I bounded back with a stronger sense of self than I ever had before.
 
#25
I'm finally comfortable in my own skin, but it took me until recently, and I'm almost 60! It's very liberating, not giving a horse's petoot about what people think of you. For most of my life I was looking for acceptance, and then I realized that I had to accept myself first. That and advancing age has been a blessing. :smug:

Now if I could only stop hurting when I get out of bed in the morning! :hmm:
 
#26
Probably about 35. Stopping drinking, drugging, television and surviving some really tough relationships was enough for me to lift my self-imposed fog and get a clear look at myself. I like what I see and the truth is I always did. It's my surroundings that I always had a hard time relating to. I still do now, but to a much lesser extent nowadays. I've pretty much learned to accept the imperfections that come along with living as a human on planet earth. I still think it's a strange place, but that's cool. Now I just roll with it.
 
#27
bassinplace said:
Probably about 35. Stopping drinking, drugging, television and surviving some really tough relationships was enough for me to lift my self-imposed fog and get a clear look at myself. I like what I see and the truth is I always did. It's my surroundings that I always had a hard time relating to. I still do now, but to a much lesser extent nowadays. I've pretty much learned to accept the imperfections that come along with living as a human on planet earth. I still think it's a strange place, but that's cool. Now I just roll with it.
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Good post, thanks for that!

I started getting comfortable in my own skin immediately when I entered college. (high school wasn't great for me but it wasn't devastating either) Still working on being totally at ease though and I'm almost 50.
 
#30
is being comfortable with yourself really just "not caring what anyone thinks of you"? when people say that it means that's exactly what they want everyone to think of them. it's just another defense mechanism. we can be comfortable with ourselves and still care how we are thought of by others.
 
#31
IronLung1986 said:
is being comfortable with yourself really just "not caring what anyone thinks of you"? when people say that it means that's exactly what they want everyone to think of them. it's just another defense mechanism. we can be comfortable with ourselves and still care how we are thought of by others.
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+1
I think there is much more to being comfortable in ones own skin than "not caring what others think if us".
 
#32
"Comfortable in your own skin" That's sort of a weird concept. I am who I am of course, but I am also a bit of a social chameleon. I can fit in in just about any situation with almost any group of people.

I guess I equate the comfortable in your own skin thing with "Here I am deal with me". That's not how I roll at all. I'll deal with whatever I have to in the manner that seems best to me, and then go home and tell my wife stories that she may or may not believe.......
 
#33
IronLung1986 said:
is being comfortable with yourself really just "not caring what anyone thinks of you"? when people say that it means that's exactly what they want everyone to think of them. it's just another defense mechanism. we can be comfortable with ourselves and still care how we are thought of by others.
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So what's wrong with another defense mechanism? And why should I care what others think about me?
 
#40
sloasdaylight said:
When you decide to enter into any relationship with any other person for pretty much any purpose other than a Cashier-Customer type of relationship.

Friends, girlfriends, boyfriends, band mates, etc.
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I havent the slightest idea what any of those people think of me. I assume their perception of me is positive, else they might not want anything to do with me, but I cannot say for certain.
 

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