True-er words where never spoken...I had major issues with this to the point where I gave up playing for a long time, believing I was destined to do covers and nothing more. Both my playing and my social life was suffering from lack of confidence (I had no rhythm, no feel, I was looking for some math equation to tell me what to play instead of feeling it, and nothing I did had any heart). I was trying really hard but all that thinking was making me cold and removed in bass and in life.
When I began to overcome this (due to some huge changes in my life) I instantly understood groove, and dancing for that matter (I never used to dance, now I can't help it if I have a few too many), even women...It the same reason women are attracted to musicians to begin with... CONFIDENCE.
You know what sounds good and what doesn't you just gotta learn to trust your ears. If you have been playing for awhile and you listen to a lot of music than you know what to play already, you just have put it on the line and not give a *&%, its all sunshine and ice creme from there.
