I need some moral support.

[Ericman197]

Sorta an update, I guess. I've decided to drop the civil suit against the attorney, the hospital is a diffrent long story and i will continue the suit on that front. the attorney was supposed to deleiver the glasses as she told me she would, I need legal counsel that i can rely on. I've been in contact with my dad to pick up some of the slack, as far as finances go, seeing as my dad makes 100K+ annualy. the rest is still up in the air.

Why was it the attorney's job to deliver glasses? I wouldn't ask one to do that in the first place, it isn't part of the job description.

As far as suing the hospital is concerned, you need to ask yourself a few things:

- Do you really have a case?

(I'd wager no - not because you don't have some valid reason to be upset at the hospital, but because it takes a very serious incident to get money out of a hospital. They're going to have much better lawyers than you)

- Can you afford to pursue it?

(Probably not. Again, the hospital has a team of lawyers at their disposal. They can drain you until you have no money left to pursue the matter)

- Are you ok with making health care more expensive and/or worse for everyone else?

(Even if you are in the right, you're costing lots of money for the hospital's legal team. They may have done you an injustice, for which you deserve reparations. And its not fair that the system is designed this way, but more than likely, the money you win is going to come from everyone else who uses the hospital. That means even higher bills at the emergency room for people who can't afford it in the first place, less charity care, cutting corners where they shouldn't be cut, etc.)

If you really, truly feel that you need the money and it is really owed to you, then go for it. There is one positive side to suing the hospital: they'll try not to make the same mistake again. But you have to ask yourself if it's really worth all the trouble that it will cause you, and everyone else.

 

[machine gewehr]

Hope all gets beter man.

Now go to the window,open it and take a deep breath.

 

[Stumbo]

the hospital is a diffrent long story and i will continue the suit on that front. the attorney was supposed to deleiver the glasses as she told me she would,

How were you damaged? How was your sister damaged?

Why couldn't you deliver the glasses?

It doesn't seem like the basis for a law suit?

What law did the lawyer break? Is being unreliable worth a lawsuit?

Were the glasses delivered at a later time?

So after you spend thousands to have the court determine that, yes, the glasses should have been delivered at a certain time but that no damage was done, then what?

Since you're paying another lawyer to process the suit, only he will get anything out of the deal. If you lose, you may be subject to a frivolous law suit yourself and have to pay again.

IMO, save your money for something that matters.

 

[MadMan118]

Eh you guys are right about the suits. Its just that i'm the kind of guy to walk into the hospital and start breaking things and hurting people out of sheer rage. Its difficult to portray just how pissed I am, its not about the glasses its about the fact that the attorney was not doing what I was paying her to do, she was stalling, showing up late to key meetings, adn avoiding responsibilties, the glasses were simply the turning point.

 

[Stumbo]

.... i'm the kind of guy to walk into the hospital and start breaking things and hurting people out of sheer rage.

Anger management is an issue best addressed with your therapist or counselor.

Working with people requires a high tolerance for frustration, humility, clarity of thought, concern for other's point of view and the ability to express yourself logically, in a calm and clear manner, especially when someone is disagreeing with you, misunderstanding you or doing something you different than what you wanted them to do.

Shouting and verbally attacking people is the quickest way to shut down communications in a relationship, any relationship. And many times, ending the relationship. If people continue to hang out with you and you subject them to your rage on a regular basis, they have some issues to work on as well.

There's a book out: "Dealing with Difficult People" that may help. However, rage usually goes a bit deeper and takes more work to get over it. It puts too much stress on your body(heart, blood pressure, etc.) and will ruin most relationships sooner rather than later.

"People who are easily angered generally have what some psychologists call a low tolerance for frustration, meaning simply that they feel or believe that they should not have to be subjected to frustration, inconvenience, or annoyance. They can't take things in stride, and they're particularly infuriated if the situation seems somehow unjust: for example, being corrected for a minor mistake. From: http://www.apa.org/topics/controlanger.html

Just something to think about that may help you down the road.

Sorry about your tough times.

You have my 100% support in dealing with them. Been there, done that.

What's that quote: Anything that does not kill you, makes you stronger.

You'll get through it. IME, learn from it and move on.

Good luck!

 

[Nyarlathotep]

Kick 'em all in the jewels

(having steel toes in your shoes helps with this )

 

[Bassgrinder77]

Don't do something childish and stupid. Take responsibility for yourself.

Eh you guys are right about the suits. Its just that i'm the kind of guy to walk into the hospital and start breaking things and hurting people out of sheer rage. Its difficult to portray just how pissed I am, its not about the glasses its about the fact that the attorney was not doing what I was paying her to do, she was stalling, showing up late to key meetings, adn avoiding responsibilties, the glasses were simply the turning point.

 

[two fingers]

Man that's a totally raw deal. Don't let up - sue 'em all. They owe you. Government owes us all.

What does that even mean???????

To the OP....I'm sure things will get better! Keep fighting for your sister! Are there any jobs in your field in Colorado? I have no idea what your total situation is, but I was just wondering if it could work out that you move with her. Just an idea. Best of luck!!!