I think my band is about to fold...

[COOL AND DEADLY]

Our rhythm guitarist decided to split after three years. Big deal right? Find another one. I found three that I believe will work out. Problem solved? NO. Now the front man and drummer decided to cancel a bunch of shows for various reasons. One of which is in NY where I have some friends coming out. There was some discrepancy as to whether or not it was booked, so I called the promoter and made sure we were on. He called the venue several times and went to bat for us. I was happy to hear it was back on for sure. Now I think I have to call him and tell him the drummer is too broke to go to ny now. Also we agreed to fill in at a good place on Saturday night. Our front man said he wanted to do it, then today he decides he can't do it. I don't understand what happens between the time we say we can do it and show date that changes our answer from yes, we can to no, we can't.
So three years of playing out and all of the suddenly nobody wants to practice or play shows anymore. I'm really tired of it. I just want to play music. I thought we had a really good thing going, now it's in shambles because I don't know why.
I'd like to just start a new band, but my license is suspended (dui checkpoint coming home from a show), and I just don't think I can pull it off right now. I think I'll try to start a new band anyway, it's not like I'll have many schedule conflicts, all I have to do is wait for someone in my current band to pull the plug on every show for no good reason.
I mean, what's the point of being in a band that won't play shows anymore?
Anyone near philly want to be in a newly forming reggae band? How about a Jam band? How about a Country band? Okay you pick the genre, I would just really like to play.

 

[Ric5]

bands come and go ... It was fun for a while and you have some good memories ... take some time off and find a better band ...

 

[COOL AND DEADLY]

You are right Ric, I'm doing just that. I guess you know how it feels when you put so much time, effort, emotion into making something work and it does for awhile and then... The wheels drop off without warning. Thanks for putting it in perspective. Respect, Michael (C & D)

 

[john_g]

I think its a PA thing...I cant find a decent band for the life of me!

 

[anderbass]

Our rhythm guitarist decided to split after three years.
I thought we had a really good thing going, now it's in shambles because I don't know why.

Several of my bands developed problems just like this after replacing a long term member too.

You need to have a talk with your other remaining members, hopefully they just dont feel comfortable hitting the stage with the new guy quite yet.

 

[QORC]

the Philly music scene BLOWS....few decent places to play...a city full of a bunch of idiots pretending to be musicians...and no one of any real fame has made it out of their since The Hooters

 

[Stumbo]

Sounds like they're trying to get you to quit or maybe they're replacing you.

I'm just sayin'.....

 

[Lemoore-on]

We were luckey to have our replacement GP before the other one left. We did a few split gigs with either one of them playing different sets. There is still some uncertincies envolved, you all just need to work thru them.

Talk to them.

 

[GreggBummer]

You should check the South Jersey classifieds. You might have to wait until your suspension is over... but it might be worth the drive over the bridge. There are a bunch of bands over here who are looking for bass and drums.

You could also take a "hiatus". Get a teacher, study music for a while. Maybe take up another instrument.

I became a much, much better bassist after taking up the drums. I will never be a good drummer... but I am a better musician.

Then, the band you play in, you are even better....

Good luck.

 

[invader3k]

Sounds like the writing is on the wall. I would call it quits with those guys (leave it amicable and don't make a big fuss about it). Take a break and take time to find the right situation. When you find it, you'll know.

 

[oldrocker]

You need to have a talk with your other remaining members, hopefully they just dont feel comfortable hitting the stage with the new guy quite yet.

This the best advice I've seen for this post. Talk is always good.

 

[youngboy]

Take a look at Craigslist and see who is on there looking for work. You obv can get gigs. It's only a people prob. 3 years for a local band. Dude that's an eternity.

 

[COOL AND DEADLY]

Once again, thank you all for responding. We played as a three piece (usually 4) on Saturday and it went okay. I'm just going to stick it out and see what happens. If it falls apart I can't say I didn't try. This is my first band, I just don't want to let go yet. It's like when a relationship or job goes sour. I have already started some side projects, and hope to be taking some lessons soon to keep heading in he right direction.