we formed an official band about a month ago with the goal of writing some originals, doing some covers, drinking beer and having fun. Now I learned everything I know about music in the last 6 months and admit to being the weakest link in the band. We got invited to play a party and we sucked ass the first set and rocked the second. No matter, people had fun. You can hear them yelling in the back ground. I had my wife video tape the gig and when I proposed to put some of the better covers up 2 of the guys lost their $h!t. Big time! Saying no way should we post it, it's sloppy and doesn't represent what we want to put out there. I am 40 years old and took up music at 40 years old. This, to me is not fun. I have people that have been very supportive of by budding music career (for what it is) and I can't share with them one of the funnest things I have done. It's come down to a we have to agree to disagree but there is now a rift in the band. It's basically the drummer who is saying he doesn't want to post it with the singer joining in. I am just playing along for now, but thinking of jumping ship as I am afraid it will damage friendships eventually. I am pretty adamant that I want my friends to experience my growth and they are pretty adamant they don't want to be judged by others. Just a rant.
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It was supposed to be fun
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Well you don't have to post it publicly to show a few friends. If you feel the performances aren't stellar than maybe posting them for everyone to see isn't the best idea. That said, I don't see a problem in you showing a few buddies.
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I gotta take the bands side with this one. Especially if you're the weakest link. They have every right not to make the performance public if they think it sucked and don't want to. And you can absolutley show anyone you want, without the need to post it all over the place. But you should absolutely post it here. 
My duo partner and I did an hour radio interview on a local station. A VERY small operation ... we were to play live on the air, and were provided only two Shure SM58's for two vocals and two guitars, with the assurance (over my objections) that it would sound fine. We weren't wearing "cans" so we only heard the ambient sound in the studio but not what went out over the air. The show was recorded, and on our way home I played the CD the host gave us. The interview was brilliant ... we were fine and projected the image we intended. The music, however, was AWFUL. Barely heard the guitars, no reverb or anything else on the vocals, and an incessant hum in the audio. I emailed the host that night and requested that no copies of that interview be distributed to anyone outside those needed for station archival purposes.
Yes. It's important that what you present to the public be the BEST you can provide. You only get one chance to make a first impression. I have quit bands because of differing opinions about what "good music" is ... if bandmates can't hear what's wrong it ain't my job to teach 'em or convince 'em.
Yes. It's important that what you present to the public be the BEST you can provide. You only get one chance to make a first impression. I have quit bands because of differing opinions about what "good music" is ... if bandmates can't hear what's wrong it ain't my job to teach 'em or convince 'em.
Yeah I have to side with the drummer and singer on this one.... why would you wanna put yourself out there like that? unless you are content with what you are doing I would not post it on a website for eveyone to see.....
I'm assuming this party video was a first gig for the band.
You may be excited about the accomplishment, but trust me, the performances only get better after Number One.
After a few more, you may have something on video that puts the first gig to shame and is truly worth posting and being proud of, not only for you but for everyone in the band (and that last detail is kind of important).
Don't let it spoil your fun. There will be more gigs, and there will be more (and possibly better) videos.
You may be excited about the accomplishment, but trust me, the performances only get better after Number One.
After a few more, you may have something on video that puts the first gig to shame and is truly worth posting and being proud of, not only for you but for everyone in the band (and that last detail is kind of important).
Don't let it spoil your fun. There will be more gigs, and there will be more (and possibly better) videos.
I just had this conversation a few weeks ago. The newbie keyboardist (also weakest link) was capturing every rehearsal and posting the absolute worst cuts all over the web, Facebook links - the whole shebang. The rest of the band, myself included was mortified. We stopped that crap immediately.
I suppose what I'm trying to say is this - what you produce as a group needs to be dealt with as a group. That means if a majority says "no 'cause it sucks", you have to be OK with that. Otherwise, you'll never be in a position to collaborate and have YOUR opinion respected. Not saying you're wrong, just that you need to take one for the team and be OK with majority rule.
My 2 cents.
I suppose what I'm trying to say is this - what you produce as a group needs to be dealt with as a group. That means if a majority says "no 'cause it sucks", you have to be OK with that. Otherwise, you'll never be in a position to collaborate and have YOUR opinion respected. Not saying you're wrong, just that you need to take one for the team and be OK with majority rule.
My 2 cents.
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Thanks. For some reason that video is getting lots of love today.
Got a couple of PMs about it also.I guess I should have prefaced it with none of us are very good and we are a garage band and that's all we will ever be. Will we get better? Sure. They are just afraid of being judged by other musicians, which is lame. If some one would be critical of a new band of all new players doesn't deserve internet access. I followed along with what they want but I think it's crap. I will just video myself being crappy and post that.
There are always critical people on the internet.
If it helps I don't like a lot of the recordings on my Myspace page, but they're all I've got and its not the bass Im unhappy about, so I still use em. Better than nothing I guess.
You probably want to listen to your friends here, especially if they're more experienced musicians.
When you put stuff out online, that becomes the first impression people who haven't seen you get of you. If what you put out isn't that great, would you really expect them to want to come see your band? On top of that, when you try to book somewhere, they're going to look you up and that is what they're going to see.
If this is more than a "something to do" hobby for you, if your end goal here is to be a decent musician and not just goofing off with the guys, then listen to your bandmates.
Go with experience. I understand your excitement - I`m in my first band at age 37 (sort of). But the real fun lies in making friendships and collaborating with other musicians - don`t let a silly Youtube video ruin that. Take the high road. Later, you can brag on videos...if the band doesn`t break up first.
