This is going to come off as smart-mouthed, but it is absolutely intended as kind advice from someone who was in your position years ago: at this stage, you shouldn't be touching the eq during the group's performances.
Asking what frequency you'd need to adjust for instruments X, Y, and Z is a bit like asking what frets bassists should play when songs go to the bridge, and then what frets go with choruses: it's treating as a technical question (what frequency do I always tweak) when the problem is at heart a musical one (how crowded is the 120-250 Hz in this arrangement? how does this player's bass rig and touch sit relative to this drummer's right foot? how heavily is the keys player leaning on her right hand? is the soloist a baritone or a soprano? what does this genre usually call for in terms of sonic density at different frequency bands? etc.)
It takes about as much time to learn how to be a decent mixer as it does to become a decent bassist, and then again as much time to stop being just decent and become a generally musical mixer.
You wouldn't want to be gigging with an accomplished band when you were just learning how to fret a note on bass, because then you'd be the guy ruining what could be a good band. Same deal at the mixing board, where when you're just finding your way around, running sound quickly becomes ruining sound.
In your shoes, I'd be following the advice I got coming up: shadow as many talented mixing engineers as you can. Watch how they set up for a session or a gig, what they listen for and change during line checks, setting monitor or headphones mixes, and mixing the first few tunes of a gig.
Also, it's easier than ever these days to find isolated tracks that will help develop your ears for what instruments might sound like in various genres. If you have access to recording software--even something like Garage Band--play around with levels, slot eq, compression, and effects there to develop your ears in a context where nobody's performance is at risk.