Back in the 1980's, I was invited by a former bandmate to try out for the open bass seat in his new band. I passed, because I only need two more semesters to get my degree. Band goes on to record one platinum and two gold records, tour the world, Grammy nomination, covers of several music publications, etc.
Fast forward a few years -- Now in law school. Same friend calls and refers me to do some studio work for a new band cutting their first album. I do some tracks and get along with everyone pretty well. A couple of years later the bassist OD's and the singer calls me to see if I want the job. I've passed the bar and am only playing casuals now, so I pass. Band goes on to record gold album, MTV, etc.
Used to kick myself over these. Then my kids were born and I realized that I am right where I am supposed to be. Any other path in life would have lead me to somewhere (and likely someone) else. I cannot imagine a world without them. So, for me, there are no regrets. It all turned out as it should.
