I don't think you're wrong.
To the OP, how have you got the mics situated with respect to the speakers? You should have the mics behind the speakers. You should never orient the mics so speaker output would go into the mics.
If you're using stage monitors, their arrangement will depend on the pattern of your mics. If you're using cardioid mics (which yours probably are) the heel of the mic should point directly along the axis of the monitor cabinet. For super- or hyper-cardioid mics, the monitor should be placed off to one side, so they project off-axis to the mic at about 60 degrees.
In small rooms, you won't be able to get a lot of GBF (gain before feedback), so you can't crank up the volume.