Not meaning to offend anyone or sound stupid.
I am getting tired of playing with folks that just HAVE to play loud. I realize different venues and different types of music matter in this but I'm mostly talking about playing in Coffehouse to medium sized gigs with different groups of people.
It seems that the drums unamplified are the loudest Instrument so that sets the "base" level of decibels stage wise. To my thinking then everyone else needs to be able to hear themselves just slightly above that and each other. Sound reinforcement is for the audience but then the player levels are enjoyable and you hear everyone and its a fun gig. I should add I have tinnitus now but also when friends and family members talk about weddings etc. the most common complaint is they finally get to see folks they haven't seen in ages and can't even talk or hear conversations. I realize a happy vibe needs some volume but it just feels crazy sometimes and there's some gigs that I can't even hear myself and just play and hope for the best and just want to get out of there as soon as I can but still keep a good attitude.
Man, it seems like the times folks play at moderate levels and point their amps at themselves for monitors and the overall level allows for hearing everybody are just fun! I'm getting real tired of the volume wars and the blank stares when you even mention the mud and needless volume. It's like folks are indulging childhood fantasies of stadium play instead of bringing an enjoyable musical experience to folks that like music in smaller venues.
I have plugs but find it hard to hear and then you just turn up and become part of the madness. It's getting old. I much more enjoy the gigs with folks that keep it moderate.
Sorry for the rant.