I knew this was going eventully come up, so I am gonna ask you.
My boyfriend, who plays in a house band, was talking to me earlier about in the future when we "officially" get together (we are pending divorce from other spouses so we don't want it publically known), he didn't want me around him on his job all the time. I understand that it is his job and the boss may not see it professional for a girlfriend or wife to constantly hang around.
But it isn't like I am there to see if he behaves. Well, part of me maybe, seeing I am a jealous person...I am very insecure and it frightens me that he might find someone more attractive and leave me.
But I am also a fan of the band. I support them. I am paying them by buying drinks.
I told him we'll handle that when we start crossing that bridge. I have children. Youngest is 9. I am probably gonna have them at times, and going out will be impossible.
Or I might have a job-with blessings, doing the same thing at a different club.
Or knowing that I will see him when he is done work, should be plentiful enough and I won't want to hang at his club-I might find another stomping ground.
What ever, the thing is, I didn't want anyone telling me I can't hang at a club b/c he works there. It's the thought. But I love watching him play and sing.
it's gonna be hard. I also have friends there. I am not gonna make him look bad by walking up to the stage and on it to get empty glasses while they are playing (like one gf of a member does). I plan on doing like now, respecting him. It's not like I am gonna smoochy kiss him when he is on break and break the neck of a female flirting with him.
My question is, those in bands with bf, gf, wives or husbands, do you allow your other to go to your gigs? I know the ones that travel on the road, it is a different situation, but those who are in a house band, what do you think?
I personally wouldn't care-I mean a 'regular day job' yea, if your bf hung out, it would be nerve racking but a bar?? Tell me what you think.
My boyfriend, who plays in a house band, was talking to me earlier about in the future when we "officially" get together (we are pending divorce from other spouses so we don't want it publically known), he didn't want me around him on his job all the time. I understand that it is his job and the boss may not see it professional for a girlfriend or wife to constantly hang around.
But it isn't like I am there to see if he behaves. Well, part of me maybe, seeing I am a jealous person...I am very insecure and it frightens me that he might find someone more attractive and leave me.
But I am also a fan of the band. I support them. I am paying them by buying drinks.
I told him we'll handle that when we start crossing that bridge. I have children. Youngest is 9. I am probably gonna have them at times, and going out will be impossible.
Or I might have a job-with blessings, doing the same thing at a different club.
Or knowing that I will see him when he is done work, should be plentiful enough and I won't want to hang at his club-I might find another stomping ground.
What ever, the thing is, I didn't want anyone telling me I can't hang at a club b/c he works there. It's the thought. But I love watching him play and sing.
it's gonna be hard. I also have friends there. I am not gonna make him look bad by walking up to the stage and on it to get empty glasses while they are playing (like one gf of a member does). I plan on doing like now, respecting him. It's not like I am gonna smoochy kiss him when he is on break and break the neck of a female flirting with him. My question is, those in bands with bf, gf, wives or husbands, do you allow your other to go to your gigs? I know the ones that travel on the road, it is a different situation, but those who are in a house band, what do you think?
I personally wouldn't care-I mean a 'regular day job' yea, if your bf hung out, it would be nerve racking but a bar?? Tell me what you think.
Good luck with that whole thing. 
