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those with insufficant others

do you let your significant others come to your gig

  • yes I don't care if he/she goes

    Votes: 32 51.6%

  • no, I don't like he/she going

    Votes: 4 6.5%

  • only if he/she doesn't go EVERY week/day/time

    Votes: 8 12.9%

  • don't care one way or another

    Votes: 18 29.0%
  • Total voters
    62
#41
Stumbo, seems to me you're jumping to some pretty big conclusions there.

sounds to me like the OP is just being honest about being human.

selenbassgirl - i'd give him a bit of space if he wants it. what's more important, seeing a band you like or your relationship? also, if the relationship was to go wrong, you think you'll still like the band as much?

i dunno, i love AC/DC but they just wouldn't be the same if Angus Young had have broke my heart.

:ninja:
 
#44
I voted that I don't care.

I like it when she comes to my gigs.

The biggest catch to that is neither of us like crowds. When I'm on stage, I'm fine, but once I get off of it-I head to the least crowded spot in the bar, often near the door. So, she comes with me early to the gig and we find her a nice spot at the bar where she will be able to see, yet won't be surrounded by people. Often my regular gig will have a line waiting outside to get in, so it's standing room only.

Theater gigs-I like it when friends/family come, but it's less of a big deal to me. I'm excited to hear what they think after the show, but I don't typically think of them while I'm playing.
 
#46
nortonrider said:
I just called my woman "insufficant". She got a real bewildered look on her face and then grabbed the dictonary. Of course it's not in there. :)

Now.....she keeps bugging me to know what it means. I think I'm going to play this for the rest of the night.
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I'm still waiting to find out what it means too. Until then, I don't know if this thread even applies to me. :D

-Mike
 
#47
Hey Stumbo.....did you get yours from Tom Smykowski?

:D

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-Mike
 
#48
Tarrbot said:
knumbskull states:
I wouldn't say that.

I have never read any of the OP's statements and other than the stuff you'd have to know that was prior knowledge, I'd say this is pretty spot on to what I was thinking as well.
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it's a big leap from someone asking for advice on their relationship, to being told she's 'taking money away from her children's future' is 'drinking her life away', and told to have 'long-term professional counselling'!

(not mention the - IMO totally unnecessary - comment about 'the sex being good'... uh, where are we getting that from, please??)

i have no knowledge of any background history outside of this thread either.
 
#51
SelenaBassGirl said:
My boyfriend, who plays in a house band, was talking to me earlier about in the future when we "officially" get together (we are pending divorce from other spouses so we don't want it publically known), he didn't want me around him on his job all the time. I understand that it is his job and the boss may not see it professional for a girlfriend or wife to constantly hang around.
But it isn't like I am there to see if he behaves. Well, part of me maybe, seeing I am a jealous person...I am very insecure and it frightens me that he might find someone more attractive and leave me.
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Your post describes the classic case of "woman obsesses about her man potentially leaving her for someone else so she hangs around him all the time in order to intercept and neutralize any potential rivals."

This is a recipe for disaster. Please take my advice (even though it's just free advice from an anonymous internet user) and stop thinking like this - you will only make yourself miserable and he will begin to resent your very presence and your relationship will be doomed.

Go to see his shows only occasionally and only for the enjoyment of seeing him perform. Make yourself just another audience member while he's performing and it's only appropriate to chit chat with him for very short times while he's not on stage. Playing in a band is one of the few jobs where you actually can have fun and you can allow your friends and family to enjoy it with you. Don't jeopardize that by clinging to him while he's doing his job.





IMO.
 
#53
My jump to conclusion is that he doesn't want you there so he can hit on other girls.

I can't fathom not wanting your significant other there. I agree with getting annoyed if its a late gig and they're trying to force you to leave early, that'd be unacceptable. But just being there to support and love; what could be better?
 

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