Hi
I notice that I’m unintentionally bending strings and looking for advice on how to correct this , I have big hands and seem to have a bit of a heavy grip I realise playing lighter will help , I do chromatic excercises etc slowly and study in the mirror and I stop bending so much but I eventually start bending the strings again seems to be mostly 3rd and 4th fingers any advice much appreciated
Certainly, working on not bending the thinner strings of a guitar will help, but instead of going to extremes, why not try adjusting the angle of the fingers on your fretting hand?
Try to have your fingers hitting the string/fingerboard at a completely perpendicular angle.