Am I doing too much?

[Mybikeisblack]

I have definitely been trying to convince myself I wasn't bothered. And I am. I'm going to sit down with them all and have a talk about things. I trust the other guitarist fully, I wouldn't have a problem loaning the guitar to him, and I know if anything happened, he'd do his best to make it up to me. I think at this point, I'm the only one taking things serious enough to take this to the next level. They're all for the most part (non music related) cool dudes to hang with, and I know that this might change some friendships. But, I also don't want to be stuck in the same position a year from now. I'm going to be a father soon, so I don't have time to take care of 2 other grown men. I appreciate every response and I've read them all. I have a lot to consider.

 

[mambo4]

Welcome to bands with friends. Over time I've learned to seek bands that already function and join them rather than try to create something from scratch with my limited social circle/leadership skills. In my experience, It is easier to make friends out of musicians in your band than it is to make musicians out of friends in your band.

 

[pudgychef]

I have definitely been trying to convince myself I wasn't bothered. And I am. I'm going to sit down with them all and have a talk about things. I trust the other guitarist fully, I wouldn't have a problem loaning the guitar to him, and I know if anything happened, he'd do his best to make it up to me. I think at this point, I'm the only one taking things serious enough to take this to the next level. They're all for the most part (non music related) cool dudes to hang with, and I know that this might change some friendships. But, I also don't want to be stuck in the same position a year from now. I'm going to be a father soon, so I don't have time to take care of 2 other grown men. I appreciate every response and I've read them all. I have a lot to consider.

Cool!!

 

[mikegug]

I'm telling you... some of the best band meetings I've ever had are the "we have to clear the air on this issue" meetings. Everyone either gets on the same page, or the band identifies members aren't like minded any more. Don't be afraid of these meetings. They can be uncomfortable, but MAN, are they helpful.

Then ask everyone you know if they know a guy who plays (name your instrument).

 

[tycobb73]

The first half of your story reminds me of an article I recently read about Ron McGovney.

 

[Mybikeisblack]

I sat down with the vocalist today, and discussed with him first because he would be the least likely to "blow up". He took it well, and he's on the same page. I'm going to sit down with the rest of the guys Saturday and clear the air. If they don't want to see eye to eye on this, than they know where the door is. They're good friends but I'm not going to lose my sanity over this.

 

[singlemalt]

Welcome to bands with friends. Over time I've learned to seek bands that already function and join them rather than try to create something from scratch with my limited social circle/leadership skills. In my experience, It is easier to make friends out of musicians in your band than it is to make musicians out of friends in your band.

Find a band that is working, needs a bass player, and get the job. Network. Offer to sub if they ever need one, get their set lists and learn them, make a note book of the tunes. (It's good practice, you learn new songs, you save their butts one day)

Go to your local jam nights. If it's a blues jam, learn some standard blues stuff, and meet some new folks. They just want a guy who will lay down the groove, so do it. (it's all about the tweedly guitards anyway) Get out of the barn, (your comfort zone)

You are giving these guys a free place to hang, indulge their fantasies, and catch a buzz. You are even providing the gear, and taxi service. (If you have to haul a musician around, he better be flat out awesome and pitch in for gas.)