I hate to admit it, but our drummer is killing us. We're just your typical classic rock bar band (I consider myself far from professional, but I take the band very seriously), but this guy's lack of professionalism is astounding: chronically late, terminally unprepared, and prone to being an a-hole if anything rubs him the wrong way. We're all older adults, and it sucks to have one member of the band who acts like a conceited kid. A couple of things have saved his bacon up to this point. He's put a lot of effort into beating the bushes and finding us gigs. He's the only guy in our band that consistently brings a crowd of 10+ of his family/friends to gigs (last gig was over 20). His peeps love to dance and party, which never fails to get everybody else dancing. We get very enthusiastic feedback from patrons and bar personnel, despite what the rest of the band considers glaring mistakes (a few sloppy starts/endings, not learning the drum parts accurately). I also feel a sense of allegiance to this guy. When I first started playing again a year and a half ago. He approached me at an open mic and asked if I wanted to jam. He was very patient with me while I got some of my chops back and learned some songs. After moths of trying to form a band, I eventually fell in with some other guys. When the drummer quit that band, I was able to bring my buddy on board. He's generally a nice guy, and we usually have fun when we get together. It's strange that a year ago, I felt like I was by far the weakest link in the band -- but at least I was always on time, prepared, and had a positive attitude. I would hate to vote this guy out of the band after all he's done for me personally. I have yet to confront him directly on these issues. I know the guitar player has on more than one occasion. He's always apologetic, but rarely corrects his actions long-term. If it wasn't for the fact that we have some gigs lined up and have gained a little momentum with booking, we would have shown him the door. I have a feeling that either the guitar player will kick him out, or he will be offended by the constant criticism and decide to quit. At this point, I'd be fine with that. Thanks for reading, it's always good to get this junk off your chest.