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Best way to remove the drummer?

#22
Marley's Ghost said:
I think this gets down to a fundamental issue: what is your obligation to your band mates? We are not under contract, dont have gigs to play, dont even have a name yet. Should I have bailed out right away when I saw that the guitarist and drummer were not up to scratch? Did I do them a disservice by hanging in there? Am I a traitor by jumping ship to play with other musicians? I have to get up on stage and play in front of friends, co-workers and other musicians. Do I not owe it to myself to play with the best group of musicians?
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Your obligation to your bandmates is to tell them the truth. In the end it will be your decision and while advice is nice, it won't make the decision any easier..
Also occured to me that at any given moment you may get a call telling you the whole thing is off and now the Guitarist and the drummer have been hired to tour with another band and are dumping you. Life is funny that way.
 
#23
Marley's Ghost said:
Ok, the plot has thickened. :eek: The singer/drummer called me and pointed out some very accurate deficiencies with not only the drummer, but also the guitarist, who seems to have difficulty getting down the same songs after 6-7 practices. He wants me and the kbd player to start something at his house with a great guitarist he knows who also sings. So my band as it is has no singer. I could leave and hook up with this new group. :hmm: :confused: I own the PA, which along with my rig is at the old guitarists house, and the new band will also need. This is gonna be ugly. :eek:
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do the new gig and put this gig on hiatus until the other folks "tighten up". :eyebrow:
 
#24
Mike88T said:
Also occured to me that at any given moment you may get a call telling you the whole thing is off and now the Guitarist and the drummer have been hired to tour with another band and are dumping you. Life is funny that way.
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Oh yeah, don't I know that. Been there before.

The drummer/singer and I really hit it off on a personal level, too. How often does that happen with a drummer? He has job/kids too so I dont think he is going anywhere :hmm:
 
#25
If you are a in a situation where you plan on giging, and the band you're currently in is not cutting the mustard, but the new drummer/singer and other guitarist/singer does. Look at it this way, when you're out playing at a show, do you want to be the band that everbody just looks at you with a blank stare of "Man these guys suck!" ?

Go with the band you feel you will go the furthest with, and you'll enjoy playing more. You may just kick yourself in the ass if you don't.
 
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Joe Turski said:
If you are a in a situation where you plan on giging, and the band you're currently in is not cutting the mustard, but the new drummer/singer and other guitarist/singer does. Look at it this way, when you're out playing at a show, do you want to be the band that everbody just looks at you with a blank stare of "Man these guys suck!" ?

Go with the band you feel you will go the furthest with, and you'll enjoy playing more. You may just kick yourself in the ass if you don't.
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I agree, 100% HOWEVER as previously stated, don't burn any bridges with the other dudes in the old line up, they could improve down the road and you guys could have a really tight band! I think the two band idea is a good one as well. Have one as your main gig (new band,) and the other as a side gig (old band.) Playing in both with different musicians will improve your chops as well! :D
 
#27
Joe Turski said:
Look at it this way, when you're out playing at a show, do you want to be the band that everbody just looks at you with a blank stare of "Man these guys suck!" ?
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This is exactly what I fear. The problem is, how to gracefully bow out. To tell them "you suck, and you will embarass me on stage" probably wont go over too well. :hiding:
 
#28
Marley's Ghost said:
This is exactly what I fear. The problem is, how to gracefully bow out. To tell them "you suck, and you will embarass me on stage" probably wont go over too well.
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A couple of choices here,

1. Tell them the truth. That you want to go further and you think you could do it better with the other band.

2. Tell them that you have lost interest in the current situation, and you feel it's best that you move on.

If they can't understand where you're coming from, thats their problem.
 
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#30
mycranium said:
How to get rid of a drummer:

Get some cigarette papers and roll a big fake joint.

Say "Hey, Todd, let's go outside and smoke a fatty!"

He'll follow you outside. Light up the fake joint, then flip it out into the street in front of a bus.

Bye bye drummer! :ninja:

-M
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I hate requoting but,(waste of space/time), That is one of the funniest things I have ever read here at TB. ROFLMAO!
 
#33
Has the dirty dead been done yet? I was elected to give the call to our former drummer. It wasn't fun, but necessary for the band to progress. I was the new guy back a few months ago that recognized his inadequecies, knew he was not going to make it, and said as much early on. Things dragged on for months. It was a big mistake holding on to him for so long !! I am sure it was much harder on him as we went from a practicing band when I wanted to oust him, to a playing band when we finally did. I will always play to highest level available to me! Life is short. That does not mean I will be irresponsible about my current position in any band. Get some history on the new singer/drummer and make sure he is for real. I worked with a singer for a few months that was talented but couldn't stay in a band for more than a few months at a time. I think he thought he was destined for stardom and "his" latest band,(time and time again), was not going to cut it for him. Find a diplomatic way to let them know you are trying another gig, things aren't going as well as you hoped etc.
 
#34
My old band broke up over AIM. We were all in a chat room, and the guitarists got in a fight over whos going to be lead, and I being the bass player, didn't care because:

A. One of them really sucked, but was motivated like hell and the other one had a lot of pedals, and was popular, but didn't give a **** about the band, he just wanted to look cool.

B. Regardless of which one of them was lead, I was going to be as loud and as awesome, if not awesomer than them.

C. I could hear myself better with only one of them, especially since they both feel the need to turn their guitars up extremely high in order to play well.

Well...what happened was, they both said "FINE I'LL HAVE A BAND WITHOUT YOU" and I was in two chatrooms, one for each guitarist, and they both said to ignore the other guitarist, and be in their band. :help:

We broke up because of creative issues...lol

well...it was much easier to break up over AIM, because if that happened during a practice I would've punched them both in the face.
 
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Holy carp..Took me a minute to remember which band this was.
 

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