I don't know what to do. My divorce has been going on 2.5 years now, because my ex is milking me for money awarded to her in the temporary orders. She will not cooperate in any way, won't respond to emails or letters to her attorney, and doesn't go to any court ordered meetings, unless it's a formal hearing. She tells lies and disobeys court orders but for some reason they don't charge her with contempt, despite repeated motions, they always get dismissed. I, on the other hand, quit my job due to stress, so I could go back to school, and so I can get my medications for free (I couldn't afford them paying 65% of my check to her for support) and the judge tells me she's going "to throw the book at me when it comes to child support" because I voluntarily quit my job.
We finally started the trial, which doesn't continue until April. Meanwhile, all the creditors are coming after me for credit cards, the house, etc that I can't pay for, because it's all in my name. I go back to work in June, but creditors have seized my bank accounts and are now trying to take any other assets I have (cars, motorcycles, etc). Once I start working they will garnish my wages. All this can be prevented if I file bankruptcy but I have to wait until the trial is over and the judge issues her ruling. I am going to declare bankruptcy, but I can't until the divorce is final. My attorney said our judge has waited 2 years to hand down rulings before, and he has a case still open from 2008 she hasn't ruled on. She's old and not running for re-election so is pretty much doing whatever she wants.
My ex's boyfriend is hanging out with my 6 year old daughter, which is prohibited by the temporary court orders. The judge has told her several times to keep him away from her, but she doesn't listen. This guy is sleeping in the bed with her and she's been getting yeast infections and complaining of irritation. I filed a restraining order, the judge rejected it. Today I filed another one, because my ex brought the guy to my house with my daughter last week. They rejected it as well. Both times because I have "no proof". I'm scared for my daughter and for my own safety, because this guy was blown up in Iraq and sustained a traumatic brain injury.
I'm not looking for legal advice, my attorney is doing everything he can. I guess I'm just wondering if anyone has been through anything like this before, and if they can suggest anything that will help. I am literally at my wit's end and don't think i can deal with this any more.
EDIT: I am already in therapy, and I don't drink so don't suggest alcohol or drugs.
We finally started the trial, which doesn't continue until April. Meanwhile, all the creditors are coming after me for credit cards, the house, etc that I can't pay for, because it's all in my name. I go back to work in June, but creditors have seized my bank accounts and are now trying to take any other assets I have (cars, motorcycles, etc). Once I start working they will garnish my wages. All this can be prevented if I file bankruptcy but I have to wait until the trial is over and the judge issues her ruling. I am going to declare bankruptcy, but I can't until the divorce is final. My attorney said our judge has waited 2 years to hand down rulings before, and he has a case still open from 2008 she hasn't ruled on. She's old and not running for re-election so is pretty much doing whatever she wants.
My ex's boyfriend is hanging out with my 6 year old daughter, which is prohibited by the temporary court orders. The judge has told her several times to keep him away from her, but she doesn't listen. This guy is sleeping in the bed with her and she's been getting yeast infections and complaining of irritation. I filed a restraining order, the judge rejected it. Today I filed another one, because my ex brought the guy to my house with my daughter last week. They rejected it as well. Both times because I have "no proof". I'm scared for my daughter and for my own safety, because this guy was blown up in Iraq and sustained a traumatic brain injury.
I'm not looking for legal advice, my attorney is doing everything he can. I guess I'm just wondering if anyone has been through anything like this before, and if they can suggest anything that will help. I am literally at my wit's end and don't think i can deal with this any more.
EDIT: I am already in therapy, and I don't drink so don't suggest alcohol or drugs.
