I have a brother who lives about an hour from me. He's married with 2 kids, 9 and 4. He's been married for 10 or 11 years. He's a CPA, she's a PA. 2 nights ago she's at work, and he's home opening up mail cluttered with Xmas cards. He comes to one addressed to his wife only. He opens it to find it's a thank you card from a guy's mother in Arkansas -"thanks for being there for my son, thanks for the gift" blah blah. His wife had just been to Arkansas 3 weeks ago for a very uncharacteristic "business" trip. My brother calls his wife at work and says "who's Jim?". Silence. My brother says "just tell me this; has there been any infidelity in our marriage?". She says that there has, and it's been going on for the past 8 months. My brother, in shock, breaks down for a few minutes and his kids are right there asking "what's the matter, daddy?" In his period of shock, he tells his kids what happened. He then calls the most nearby relatives, his sister-in-law and her husband to come get the kids (he's emotionally destroyed). I find out about this a while later and head to his house immediately. I take him to my house where my parents are visiting, for family support. He didn't sleep at all that night. Yesterday we're all trying to figure out what to do, if anything. My brother contacted a lawyer, then transferred half of all the money they had in various accounts into an account she can't touch. He took yesterday off from work, and he eventually just wanted to get his kids and go home. I drove him home and just hung out there. He's calling around, but nobody is answering there phones - his wife, sister-in-law, etc. He calls his mother-in-law in Chicago, who informs him that the kids are on a flight to Chicago to avoid being in the crossfire. This "women" he's married to puts 2 already traumatized kids on a flight to Chicago - by themselves. There is absolutely no history of domestic violence, drinking, drugs, nothing. My brother feels exactly like many of you married guys reading this; in absolute disbelief and shock. I'm dazed and confused.